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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 01:37 PM
It has come to my attention that Candace Oakley's partner, Buford has passed away from cancer.

My condolences to Candy.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 01:38 PM
eff'g cancer


 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 01:40 PM

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 01:53 PM
Thoughts and prayers for comfort going out to Candace and the family and friends of Buford ... rest soundly now.


(I hate cancer )

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 01:57 PM
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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 01:59 PM

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 02:03 PM
I never met Buford. Guess now I never will. Condolences to the family.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 02:17 PM
I had heard this rumor a few weeks back but had found no proof. Searching the Macon archives, the only thing I found was a reference to his passing in an article about semi-annual tours of Rose Hill Cemetery.

http://www.macon.com/local/story/892617.html

History lives at Rose Hill Cemetery thanks to semiannual tours

There’s a lot more to Rose Hill Cemetery than meets the eye.

Those rough stone blocks in that retaining wall came from the collapsed ruins of one of the towers at Fort Hawkins, the first white settlement in this part of Georgia.

That flagpole towering over a hillside of Confederate graves came from Cochran Field, where Royal Air Force pilots trained during World War II.

That patch of grass may cover the remains of an early Maconite — after all, only one third of the graves in Rose Hill are marked.

With its skyline of monuments, terraced plots and variety of trees, Rose Hill offers a pleasant walk at any time of year. But to really appreciate the history of the place, you’ve got to take a ramble.

In 1977 the late Calder Payne, working with the Middle Georgia Historical Society, began giving twice-yearly cemetery walking tours called Rose Hill Rambles. The tradition continues under the auspices of the seven-year-old Historic Rose Hill Cemetery Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to preserving the 169-year-old city property.

Sunday, about 200 people turned out for the most recent ramble. The man with the megaphone and the facts was Phil Comer, a writer, historian and toxicologist. Comer has been giving tours of the cemetery since the ’80s.

At the plot for one of the many Napier families represented in Rose Hill, Comer related an anecdote he heard from Buford Birdsey, an avid cemetery supporter who died recently.

“This man was a lawyer and one time he was in a courtroom in south Georgia and the judge asked, ‘How do you pronounce your name?’ And he said, ‘Well, the hoity-toity members of the family pronounce it the French way, Nah-peYAY. Some of the no-account members of the family pronounce it Napper. But I pronounce it NAY-peeyer.’ Then the judge said, ‘Well, Mr. NAY-peeyer, I’d like you to know I married a Napper.’’’

In researching the stories of the people buried at Rose Hill, Comer has traveled to Atlanta, Savannah and Milledgeville to find information unavailable in Macon. When he began his research he made it a point to interview older Maconites to get first-hand accounts of the people whose names appear on the tombstones.

Comer said he was a relatively late convert to the cult of local history.

“I grew up in Macon with the attitude of ‘Let’s get the heck out of here, there’s nothing here,’’’ he said. “I went to the Midwest and the people there are wonderful, but they don’t have that sense of place. ... As soon as I came back to Macon I said, ‘Wow, there is just an energy here, a connection to the past, and these stories need to be told.’’’

The stories include those of Anna Jordan, beloved nanny of the well-to-do Smith family and one of the few blacks buried in Rose Hill; James H. Blount, a former congressman whom President Grover Cleveland sent to investigate the overthrow of Queen Lili’uokalani of Hawaii; and Lieutenant Bobby, a canine military mascot who fell down an elevator shaft at the Dempsey Hotel.

Comer said the most visited graves in Rose Hill are those of Allman Brothers Band members Duane Allman and Berry Oakley. The graves are now enclosed by a fence to prevent vandalism.

“You can’t really spend any time in the cemetery at all without somebody stopping you and asking directions to the graves,” he told the crowd during the 90-minute tour.

As Comer walked toward the cemetery gate after the tour, a minivan pulled up next to him.

The driver had a question.

You guessed it.

Comer cheerfully pointed out the way.


Rest In Peace, Mr. Birdsey.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 02:28 PM
My sincere condolences to Candace and the family.

Effin' cancer sucks!

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 02:30 PM
Sorry to hear this, may he rest in peace.

Does anyone have a recent photo of Buford and Candace? I have always wondered if I had seen them at Rose Hill during past visits but had never seen a recent photo of Candace. I don't recognize Buford from the picture that Dave posted.

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 02:36 PM
Ryan, that pic of Buford was taken in Macon at the CRS show at Nashville Station in 2006. I was standing next to him in it but cropped myself out of it. I'm sure he hadn't changed much from that image.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 02:49 PM
Good Lord.
I have spent hour upon hour at Rose Hill talking (mostly listening) to Mr. Birdsey. Long talks, deep sometimes.

I know he offended and intimidated some here--indeed, that's how we met. Me and Tommy Booth. But after awhile, he started to get the concept that people who came to the site were all different, some more respectful than others. He and Candace were warm to me at the CRS show, and I always invited them to the Jam. And meant it.

There was a warm, friendly guy in there. If you could get past the bitterness, which was substantial. He tried to do what he thought was right, in his view of life. I hope he has found peace.

My deepest condolences to Candace.

 
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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 03:08 PM
Thanks Dave. Yeah I don't think I ever saw him. Do you have picture of Candance from that evening as well? I am curious what she looks like these days anyways, she use to look so much like her brother back in the day.

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 03:12 PM
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I have spent hour upon hour at Rose Hill talking (mostly listening) to Mr. Birdsey. Long talks, deep sometimes.

I know he offended and intimidated some here--indeed, that's how we met. Me and Tommy Booth. But after awhile, he started to get the concept that people who came to the site were all different, some more respectful than others. He and Candace were warm to me at the CRS show, and I always invited them to the Jam. And meant it.

There was a warm, friendly guy in there. If you could get past the bitterness, which was substantial. He tried to do what he thought was right, in his view of life. I hope he has found peace.

My deepest condolences to Candace.
Randy, I share those sentiments. He cared about Candace, and what was important to Candace was important to him. I certainly never thought of him as a villain of any sort, just a guy trying to do what he thought was right. The exchanges we had the night of the CRS show were warm and thoughtful. I still have a photo of the graves he gave me with Christmas wreaths on them in my desk drawer at work. He was about more than protecting the two Brothers' graves. He was about protecting Rose Hill, in general. I hope the good works there will continue.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 06:02 PM
When my son Ethan and I visited Rosehill a few years ago I knew that Buford kept watch over the site and I respected that. I saw that he was nearby and I kept my distance, again out of respect. Ethan and I looked at the site from inside my truck and I waved at Buford, who waved back.

What I thought was a wave was him motioning me to come down to the site. He told me that he saw that I was being respectful and that it was ok to approach the graves. We talked and he seemed a very interesting person. I was with BDOB when the picture he posted was taken and can only say good of what I saw and experienced, which was a person trying to protect Candace's brother's resting place.

RIP, I wish I could've heard your fishing stores from the Florida Keys and your Coast Guard connection...

My deepest condolences to Candace.

[Edited on 10/30/2009 by TanDan]

[Edited on 10/31/2009 by TanDan]

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 06:27 PM
Deepest condolences to Candace and the Birdsey family
The cancer scourge continues to fester -- not good

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 06:36 PM
I had the priviledge of meeting Buford and Ms Candace this past Summer at Rose Hill. We spoke of going fiishing, but with his health deteriorating I could sense that day would never come. He was one helluva man, a real crackerjack.
RIP Buford

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 06:36 PM
Sorry to hear of his passing. I sort of met him at Rose Hill. I recognized him.
We asked for directions and he pointed without saying a word. I just smiled to myself.
He seemed to be watching over Rose Hill.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 07:44 PM
Does anyone know where Buford was laid to rest?

 

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  posted on 10/30/2009 at 08:46 PM
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It has come to my attention that Candace Oakley's partner, Buford has passed away from cancer.

My condolences to Candy.


He was her husband, partner yes, but her husband.

 

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  posted on 11/1/2009 at 03:51 PM
I want to send condolences to Candi for her loss.I never met the gentleman ,but watched him guard the graves of Berry and Duane at Rosehill.So.....we all owe him one for his selfless contribution.

 

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  posted on 11/2/2009 at 02:27 PM
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For some reason no obituary was published about the passing of Buford Birdsey.


Well did you ever think for even one second before posting that perhaps Candace would have liked Buford's & her privacy respected?

 

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  posted on 11/2/2009 at 02:39 PM
Good point, Skip.
You know, it occurs to me that Buford caught his share of grief at this site, and I can understand that. I had the opportunity to be offended, be confrontational, chose another way. Some did not, and I can understand that too.

Perhaps some of the family thought his passing would be treated differently here than it has. I believe and hope that he came to realize that we are not a bunch of loonies, not threats or people trying to make a buck off their deceased family member. We're all different. And I think and hope he found some underlying goodness in some of us. Like we did in him. So perhaps someone could print how his passing was treated here. They might like to know.

Just a thought....

 
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