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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 04:55 PM
How does one recover if they are broke.How do you calm the nerves?the shame
 
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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 05:02 PM
been broke plenty of times in my younger years. more by choice than any thing else.

broke ain't bad if have some hope of finding work.

sucks big time if you don't.

shouldn't be any shame. lots of corporations are doing the broke thing.

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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 06:05 PM
I'm 52.

After suffering from anxiety and depression over the last 10 years, I no longer have any savings (never had much to begin with).

Went from making good money to not enough money. I was an HR Manager over 140 people (Couriers) from 4 different locations. Now I am a Courier.

Moved out of the house I rented, to live back with my Mom and Stepdad...which is depressing in it's self.

If I had no where to go I would probably lose it and do something bad to myself.

Also I had a nice car, now I drive a Toyota Corrola with 356,000 miles on it.

I used to be happy and the life of the party, now I'm a mess.

Always had a wife or girlfriend, I no longer have nothing to offer..unless they are into overweight, bald, low income losers living with their parents.

Looking for one more chance to be "me" again.

I'm pretty much to blame for 99% of it.

Other than being suicidal for 3 weeks i'm doing fine.

[Edited on 6/29/2009 by OldDirtRoad]

 

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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 07:56 PM
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I'm 52.

After suffering from anxiety and depression over the last 10 years, I no longer have any savings (never had much to begin with).

Went from making good money to not enough money. I was an HR Manager over 140 people (Couriers) from 4 different locations. Now I am a Courier.

Moved out of the house I rented, to live back with my Mom and Stepdad...which is depressing in it's self.

If I had no where to go I would probably lose it and do something bad to myself.

Also I had a nice car, now I drive a Toyota Corrola with 356,000 miles on it.

I used to be happy and the life of the party, now I'm a mess.

Always had a wife or girlfriend, I no longer have nothing to offer..unless they are into overweight, bald, low income losers living with their parents.

Looking for one more chance to be "me" again.

I'm pretty much to blame for 99% of it.

Other than being suicidal for 3 weeks i'm doing fine.

[Edited on 6/29/2009 by OldDirtRoad]


You are far from a loser! And we are all to blame for things happening in our lives that we had a hand in controlling.

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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 08:15 PM
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Keep trying to be "you". You'll succeed.




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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 08:42 PM
Been broke myself many times - especially when younger and just starting out, again after divorce when starting over. There is no shame in being broke ... it happens, probably more-so during these economic times, but there should be no shame in dealing with misfortune (and don't let yourself be fooled into thinking so by unreasonable societal pressures). Don't know full story on you but my 'recovery' from broke has always been through hard work, preserverance, and a quiet knowledge that this too shall pass. For calming the nerves and relieving pain I always start with my own little form of deep breathing and meditation ... it usually works for me but I've also had to look to a professional on occasion.

Not sure where you live but most places any more have United Way and United Way has a resource called First Call For Help that can be very useful in finding an organization (or organizations) in your area that can maybe provide you any specific help or service you might need. I used to work with the First Call folks (LONG time ago but I just checked on internet and they are still operational) and I have personal knowledge of quite a few folks who were able to find exactly the kind of help they needed in their lives through this resource - and these resources cover all aspects of the human condition ... physical, mental, psychological, just plain every day living. Good luck, hyper ... I'll keep you in my thoughts (as I do you, Kenny).

 

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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 09:17 PM
"the wounds will heal, starting over ain't no big deal, they rebuild Rome, and life goes on....." PFR

I imagine most of us over 30 have experienced being broke, I have, with two small children, but I used it as a tool, we never lost our home thank God, so it was easy. Well easy in that like Deb said, hard work, perseverance, hope.

Music, to me is great medicine, you obviously have access to the internet so you have access to all the music in the world. OldDirtRoad can turn you on some great inspirational music to lift your spirits, and you must lift your spirits because you have much to do.

A couple of resources have been cited already, and these are where you should start. I guarantee the people on this site will not steer you wrong, help is available. You just ask and you will recieve here.

Stay in touch here and let us know how we can help.

 

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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 09:18 PM
i been broke more times in my life than carter's got liver pills but somehow or nother it always worked out,,,,,,,,,i been to where i had to live wit my mama & my sister for a spell til i got it back together,,,,,,,,,,,i looked at how i got in that shape & tried my damndest to not do it agin,,,,,,,,aint always been smart enuff to not repeat it but somehow i come out,,,,,,,not smellin like a rose but i come out,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

 

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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 09:33 PM
There are always roads to better days my friend! Many of us have walked those paths and I am certain there are many sucess stories within this community. In my siituation, I can rack up my trials/tribulations to lack of goals (or very poor targets when setting goals Once I hit rock bottom, it focused me to take the steps to pull myself back on the correct path.

Kenny, easy on yourself my friend. You are a kind, caring and funny man that has alot to offer a woman. It is the inner man that defines the man! Change your point of view and I bet you change your fortunes!

 

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  posted on 6/29/2009 at 11:07 PM
There are social service agencies in every city and town. They have people who are paid to help other people. Sometimes you have to do things to get help like stop using drugs or alcohol or go to a psychiatrist if they suspect you have an untreated mental illness. I'm not saying you do hyper, just saying that many agencies will want to address those issues if they are present and you would have to be cooperative. Anyway, that is a start. And if you try to think in a positive way, that helps too. Sometimes our own negative thinking gets us into trouble. Finally, start one step at a time. You cannot expect everything to fall into place like magic. Things take time to work out. Keep a chin up and get some help by people trained and prepared to help and things should be brighter in time.

 

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  posted on 6/30/2009 at 05:20 PM
"When ya ain't got nuthin' ... Ya got nuthin' to lose" -Dylan

Love that line, one of many from Bob...

Hang in there friend.

 

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  posted on 6/30/2009 at 06:20 PM
If your under 35 Uncle Sam can use you.

 

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  posted on 6/30/2009 at 08:28 PM
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If your under 35 Uncle Sam can use you.


Not being sarcastic Bob, but how long were you in the service ? I'm being serious for a change.

 

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  posted on 6/30/2009 at 09:18 PM
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I'm 52.

After suffering from anxiety and depression over the last 10 years, I no longer have any savings (never had much to begin with).

Went from making good money to not enough money. I was an HR Manager over 140 people (Couriers) from 4 different locations. Now I am a Courier.

Moved out of the house I rented, to live back with my Mom and Stepdad...which is depressing in it's self.

If I had no where to go I would probably lose it and do something bad to myself.

Also I had a nice car, now I drive a Toyota Corrola with 356,000 miles on it.

I used to be happy and the life of the party, now I'm a mess.

Always had a wife or girlfriend, I no longer have nothing to offer..unless they are into overweight, bald, low income losers living with their parents.

Looking for one more chance to be "me" again.

I'm pretty much to blame for 99% of it.

Other than being suicidal for 3 weeks i'm doing fine.

Problems are temporary, they can be there for quite awhile, but eventually the tides do turn in your favor. Living with your parents is not good for your mental health because to them you will always be their child, even though you are grown up. Look for a part time job in addition to the one you have. Stores like Target etc. have overnight stocking jobs where you can probably just do your job, get paid. As bad as it is down there, you should see what people up here do. Highly paid people with triple digit incomes working 3 b.s. jobs just so they don't get foreclosed on, and if they do get foreclosed on, then they rent. The economy is not good right now, but don't let it take your spirit. How many years did Duane and the rest of them live on rice and beans and the benevolence of a nice lady who had a restaurant? It happens to everybody. "Let your Soulshine, it's better than sunshine, better than moonshine, damn sure better than rain, now people don't mind, we all get that way sometimes, gotta let your soulshine, shine till the break of day"...


 

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  posted on 6/30/2009 at 09:21 PM
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How does one recover if they are broke.How do you calm the nerves?the shame


The first place it happens is with your head. You have to convince yourself you will find something, when you firmly believe it, it will happen for you. There is something called The Secret. What we believe happens to us. You may not be thinking anything bad and it happens anyway, but how you recover from it depends on how and what you can bring to you. God will help you, but if you don't have the belief, you will stay down.

Do some searches about the secret and also a book and movie called "What the Bleep Do We Know", they learned on the set of their movie that things were happening and coming true and then they found out why. It's all about manifesting. Also called the Law of Attraction, you can attract good things or bad things into your life. It is up to you.

Don't give up and never surrender to adversity, never, ever.

 

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  posted on 6/30/2009 at 09:27 PM
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There are social service agencies in every city and town. They have people who are paid to help other people. Sometimes you have to do things to get help like stop using drugs or alcohol or go to a psychiatrist if they suspect you have an untreated mental illness. I'm not saying you do hyper, just saying that many agencies will want to address those issues if they are present and you would have to be cooperative. Anyway, that is a start. And if you try to think in a positive way, that helps too. Sometimes our own negative thinking gets us into trouble. Finally, start one step at a time. You cannot expect everything to fall into place like magic. Things take time to work out. Keep a chin up and get some help by people trained and prepared to help and things should be brighter in time.


Pardon me but social services is full of sh*t. They do not help people. They system-a-tize poor people and keep them down below the federal poverty level. You'd be better to live in the woods with the illegals and be a day laborer than deal with their bullsh*t. I work with people who deal with them for survival and the way the people they help are living is not living at all. They might get them housing, but it never lasts, the greedy landlords just want those securit deposits, then they find some bulls*t excuse to evict them. Then they get sanctioned, then they close their cases. They put those people thru too much for almost nothing. I don't want to advocate suicide, but it is probably better than dealing with those sons of b*tches.

 

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  posted on 6/30/2009 at 09:28 PM
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If your under 35 Uncle Sam can use you.


The truce is over in Waziristan, so if Uncle Sam wants to use you, just say no.

 

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  posted on 7/2/2009 at 09:48 PM
I've been broke too many times and am just a couple of paychecks from it now, as are many of us. No shame in being broke. No shame in whatever you have to do to get past it. Sell your plasma, work day labor, beg, borrow ... just don't steal. That will just make things worse. As long as you are trying to get past it, there is no shame. If you have to turn to a shelter, do it and get past it. Many people will help if they see you are trying. Screw the ones who look down on you for it.

I once spent Christmas with $4, no utilities, no food, no prospects, no nuthin' except that UPS delivered a smoked turkey to the wrong address. Even then I tried to deliver it to the right address but the people had moved. So I ate it! I figured fate was looking out for me!

 

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  posted on 7/2/2009 at 09:55 PM
I've been broke a lot of times.....but I've never been broken. Broke is just money....as long as you don't define yourself by the almighty dollar there's always hope.

 

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  posted on 7/2/2009 at 11:43 PM
When I split from my wife I left that house with a duffle bag, $47 in my jeans, and all the debts. It will take me years to recover from that and build back to where I was before. Long story, but who's bitter? Not me.....anymore. It taught me to be patient, simplify things, and live in the "now." The only day you have any control over is today, and one day at a time does the trick.

[Edited on 7/3/2009 by alloak41]

 

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  posted on 7/4/2009 at 09:39 PM
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I've been broke too many times and am just a couple of paychecks from it now, as are many of us. No shame in being broke. No shame in whatever you have to do to get past it. Sell your plasma, work day labor, beg, borrow ... just don't steal. That will just make things worse. As long as you are trying to get past it, there is no shame. If you have to turn to a shelter, do it and get past it. Many people will help if they see you are trying. Screw the ones who look down on you for it.

I once spent Christmas with $4, no utilities, no food, no prospects, no nuthin' except that UPS delivered a smoked turkey to the wrong address. Even then I tried to deliver it to the right address but the people had moved. So I ate it! I figured fate was looking out for me!


It wasn't fate, God sent you that turkey, as the other people probably didn't need it as badly as you did.

 

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  posted on 7/5/2009 at 07:49 AM
I guess it's a cliche, but this thread shows it can happen to anyone. Reading posts from people Ive found to be intelligent, caring and thoughtful on this site will make me think twice when I see someone on tough times

Stay strong hyper, and come back and post more often, folks on this site are very supportive

 

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There are social service agencies in every city and town. They have people who are paid to help other people. Sometimes you have to do things to get help like stop using drugs or alcohol or go to a psychiatrist if they suspect you have an untreated mental illness. I'm not saying you do hyper, just saying that many agencies will want to address those issues if they are present and you would have to be cooperative. Anyway, that is a start. And if you try to think in a positive way, that helps too. Sometimes our own negative thinking gets us into trouble. Finally, start one step at a time. You cannot expect everything to fall into place like magic. Things take time to work out. Keep a chin up and get some help by people trained and prepared to help and things should be brighter in time.


Pardon me but social services is full of sh*t. They do not help people. They system-a-tize poor people and keep them down below the federal poverty level. You'd be better to live in the woods with the illegals and be a day laborer than deal with their bullsh*t. I work with people who deal with them for survival and the way the people they help are living is not living at all. They might get them housing, but it never lasts, the greedy landlords just want those securit deposits, then they find some bulls*t excuse to evict them. Then they get sanctioned, then they close their cases. They put those people thru too much for almost nothing. I don't want to advocate suicide, but it is probably better than dealing with those sons of b*tches.


very well said....thanks,Gina!

 

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  posted on 7/5/2009 at 07:55 AM
& i truly wish the best for you to you,Hyper & to anyone in a similiar situation...
 

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  posted on 7/5/2009 at 11:36 AM
I always thought that as long as I could work I would be okay, no matter what the work was and no matter how many jobs I needed to work. That's when I was in my 20's. As you get older and relize your body just can't keep up with what you once believed, it can be frightening. I have been down and out several times. When I was younger, I worked cleaning offices and banks at night. My mother was horrified, but my very wise grandmother told me it was an honest days work. After I got divorced, I got really poor. I was working, but I went back to school which put me in big time debt. I am still paying off. I am working, but still pretty poor. I have not been on a vacation since 1994. We all do the best we can. I work in the social work field and although I love my work, I wish I choose teaching. For those having a hard time the shift has to start in your mind. Try and tackle one issue at a time. If I were to lose my job today, I would be in trouble. This is a real possiblity. There have been lay offs at my agency and my health is not great. Old dirt Road I get that at this point in your life you didn't think you would be in this position. But you have a family that was willing to take you in. Thats a good place to start. I was reading on the internet the other day about ways to live rent free. House sitting, caretaking etc. I have some links, but I left them at work. If you are interested, pm me and I will send them to you. Sending love and healing to all are struggling in these very hard times. Life is full of begin again times.
 
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