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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 08:05 AM


I would be curious to read how both genders think about it.



I read where one woman said nothing can kill romance faster than the word prenup.














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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 09:13 AM
Ooo..dangerous territory. If the other person agrees that its a good idea, go for it. Otherwise, prepare for battle.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 09:36 AM
You have not given us enough facts to give an opinion. Gender and/or age are not of themselves determining factors. Marriage itself is a contract, so generally I see nothing wrong w/ spelling out the terms of terminating that contract.

My brother now wishes he had one before he married for the 2d time at 40+, as he paid a good bit of money to escape a 2 yr marriage that did not include his wife giving up any career or bearing children. Of course, he didn't ask me beforehand and I don't volunteer advice! His kids from the 1st marriage probably feel the same.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 09:56 AM
50% of all marriages end in divorce.

Second marriage % is even higher.

I'd say get it in writing.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 09:59 AM
As Brock notes; more info is needed. As a generality, if either (or both) have amassed some reasonable financial holdings, I would say its almost imperative. Nothing worse than watching half your retirement float away because of a couple of years of failed marriage.

Maybe its just me, but the financial side of a marriage should be clearly spelled out before jumping in. For the young it might not be a big deal, but for older folks I'd say its a requirement.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 11:12 AM
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You have not given us enough facts to give an opinion. Gender and/or age are not of themselves determining factors. Marriage itself is a contract, so generally I see nothing wrong w/ spelling out the terms of terminating that contract......






Thanks Brock, I amended the thread to read generally speaking.

It was a topic of conversation with some guy friends of mine last night.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 11:36 AM
It would really piss me off if somebody tried to take half of what i've accumulated over the last 50 years.

My lawnmower, and, let's see, my old '81 volvo without the transmission, and umm, and, well, a lot more stuff too.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 02:43 PM
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I read where one woman said nothing can kill romance faster than the word prenup.
That's because the woman has everything to gain, and nothing to lose...assuming the man has his own house and has amassed a decent retirement for himself. Of course, it works the other way, too.

If you are a young couple, say in your 20's, and it's a first marriage, and neither of you already own a home, then I'd say no prenup is needed. You'll acquire everything together. If, God forbid, the marriage fails, and it's a community property state, then split it down the middle.

Here's where it gets hairy. If you've already been married and divorced, lived alone for a while, recovered some of the losses incurred from the last divorce, own your own home, then you meet another person who you feel fairly certain you want to share your life with, I'd seriously look into getting a pre-nup. A few years of a second marriage doesn't entitle wife (or husband) #2 to 1/2 of anything. Plus, what if you have children from your first marriage? You want to leave them a little something when your time on Earth is up. Pre-nups can benefit the children of first marriages as much as it can the person signing one.

If the second marriage produces more offspring, that changes everything I just wrote in the previous paragraph. But, if we're talking about people in their 40's or early 50's, it's not likely to happen.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 05:42 PM
Ask Paul McCartney. I'm sure he wishes he had one.

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 05:48 PM
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Ask Paul McCartney. I'm sure he wishes he had one.


I'm reminded of the episode of Seinfeld where George asked Susan to sign a pre-nup..

"Sign a pre-nup?"... ha!...You don't have any money...I have more than you do!... Sure I'll sign it!..where is it?..hahahaha"

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 05:51 PM
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Ask Paul McCartney. I'm sure he wishes he had one.


I'm reminded of the episode of Seinfeld where George asked Susan to sign a pre-nup..

"Sign a pre-nup?"... ha!...You don't have any money...I have more than you do!... Sure I'll sign it!..where is it?..hahahaha"



LMAO!!!

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 06:17 PM
2 quotes:

"Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience" (Don't know who said this but it's a great quote)

"Next time, instead of getting married why don't I just find a woman I hate and buy her a house?" -Rod Stewart

 

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  posted on 2/8/2009 at 07:17 PM
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"Next time, instead of getting married why don't I just find a woman I hate and buy her a house?" -Rod Stewart






actually that sounds like my first time !!!

 

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  posted on 2/9/2009 at 01:12 AM
I'll sign a prenup, as long as it is voided by accidental death of the wife.


any rich gals still looking for a hunk of man flesh?

 

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  posted on 2/9/2009 at 11:14 AM
After being hosed in my first marriage divorce, I wouldn't remarry or cohabitate to the extent it constituted a common law marriage (whatever that might be) without a prenup. I don't have much, and that's the point. At this stage of my life I could not afford to lose half again.

 

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  posted on 2/9/2009 at 11:23 AM
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After being hosed in my first marriage divorce, I wouldn't remarry or cohabitate to the extent it constituted a common law marriage (whatever that might be) without a prenup. I don't have much, and that's the point. At this stage of my life I could not afford to lose half again.


I think most states have now statutorily eliminated common law marriage; I know GA has, and we're not really on the legal cutting edge. So here's the green light to shack it up!

 

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After being hosed in my first marriage divorce, I wouldn't remarry or cohabitate to the extent it constituted a common law marriage (whatever that might be) without a prenup. I don't have much, and that's the point. At this stage of my life I could not afford to lose half again.


I think most states have now statutorily eliminated common law marriage; I know GA has, and we're not really on the legal cutting edge. So here's the green light to shack it up!


WOOOHOOOOO!!!! Thanks Bro.

 

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That's because the woman has everything to gain, and nothing to lose...assuming the man has his own house and has amassed a decent retirement for himself. Of course, it works the other way, too.


Hmmm - no female viewpoint here yet so I'll throw my 2 cents in. It does go both ways. No - it may not be romantic but if I were to remarry I think I'd want a pre-nup to protect myself and everything I've worked for. This is voice of reason at work here and not wanting to give everything up and start from scratch as I did after my 1st marriage ended (was much easier to begin again in 30's ... now that I'm in 50's I'm thinking more along line of retirement not starting over!)

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That's because the woman has everything to gain, and nothing to lose...assuming the man has his own house and has amassed a decent retirement for himself. Of course, it works the other way, too.
Hmmm - no female viewpoint here yet so I'll throw my 2 cents in. It does go both ways. No - it may not be romantic but if I were to remarry I think I'd want a pre-nup to protect myself and everything I've worked for. This is voice of reason at work here and not wanting to give everything up and start from scratch as I did after my 1st marriage ended (was much easier to begin again in 30's ... now that I'm in 50's I'm thinking more along line of retirement not starting over!)
Right Deb, what I'm basically saying is...if you've been married, divorced, lost your ass, and built up your estate a second time, the second spouse shouldn't be entitled to half after just a few years of marriage if they didn't help accumulate it. I think it IS reasonable to want to protect yourself financially, and any person who objects to a pre-nup obviously has his or her OWN interests at heart, and not their prospective mate's.

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  posted on 2/10/2009 at 05:57 PM
i say PRENUP
with a well written will.

hell in florida you should have one even living with someone.....

 

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  posted on 2/10/2009 at 06:02 PM
Linnie, why...what is it about Florida?
 

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  posted on 2/10/2009 at 07:12 PM
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Linnie, why...what is it about Florida?


their common law is a tricky law

 

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