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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 11:45 AM
I had a REALLY, REALLY tough day at work yesterday and before I go on, let me say that I've already somewhat moved on and am going to just "let it go" (I HOPE) and not let it bother me. But some of the sourness still lingers; yesterday when it happened I was in a complete state of shock.

As some of you know, I'm a Respiratory Therapist. I'm working full-time now for a home care company. A large percentage of my duties is to issue a cpap device to patients who come into the office and explain to them how to use it.

Yesterday morning a Mexican-American family of three came in: An adult couple toting a boy who was maybe two years old. As I walked them in, as I sometimes do, I was playing with the kid, making faces and making him laugh, just making them feel comfortable. The woman was carrying the machine, which she said she received at home. So they were there JUST for instructional purposes; usually I both issue the machine and instruct them on it. She said she received no cpap mask with it (you cannot wear one without a special mask). I went to the director of customer service and got approval to issue them a mask, even though it was not on their work order. (**FAVOR #1**). Her English seemed very limited, so I asked it they spoke English. She replied, "My husband." So I explained use of the machine to them both, figuring what she doesn't get, he will. I had been having a busy morning, and around this time, as I often do, needing more room on the large conference room table, I took an empty box or two sitting on the table and threw them on the floor.

I fit her for the mask as I always do. Then also, as I always do, I hooked her up to the machine with the mask on to give her a short trial run. She pulled the mask off after maybe 45 seconds, saying, "I don't like it. It's not for me, it's for my daughter. We have a 14 year old daughter.......it's for her." About this time, the secretary who had set up the appointment appeared in the doorway. I explained to her in a calm, NOT confrontational manner, "Erlinda, if the patient is not present here, you need to tell me." She apologized and said that she knew this, but forgot to tell me. NO ONE, not the secretary or the family had told me that I was putting a mask on someone who was not even the patient. Technically I have to throw that mask away now because I have placed it on the face of someone who it will not be issued to. However I made an exception here, and told them, "Alright, because it's for your daughter, I'll give you the mask anyway." (**FAVOR #2**).

They got up to leave, and that's when it all imploded. The Father looked straight at me and angrily said, "What are you mad about?!" I said, "I'm not mad. What are you talking about?". He said, "Yes you are! I saw you throwing things around the room! Is it because we're Mexican?!" Erlinda told me that when they left, he asked for my name.

I was in a state of shock for the rest of the day. Throwing things around the room? Because I threw an empty box or two off of the table, now I'm a racist?? If you've got this far, you've read my post: I was nothing but nice to them from the time they walked in, and did them TWO favors which resulted in them being able to take a mask home for their daughter to wear with her machine. I am still somewhat in a state of shock over being accused of being racially prejudiced after trying to provide the best customer service I could.

I sat down in my office within the next hour and just HAD to blow off a little steam, so I asked the head of customer service, Darryl, (who just happens to be black) in to my office and I related the entire incident to him. Darryl is new to the company like me, both of us have only been there maybe 10 weeks each. I have to say that Darryl really smoothed things over a bit. His explanation was, "Some people are just stupid, and in their stupidity they look for ways to make them feel better about themselves. And they're probably too stupid to know they're stupid, so it's a vicious cycle." That one made me laugh, and he cheered me up just a little, I have to say.

I don't know what else to say, other than to repeat the title of this thread: Sometimes It's Hard Being a White Male. I am still somewhat in shock over this and probably will be for a long time.

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 11:58 AM
Phew, that is a tough story...but I can only guess we (white males) have no idea what it looks like from their (non white) point of view. But my guess is we are going to become more familiar with their point of view more than it was ever anticipated.

I feel for you Rob, sort of a perplexing, twilight zone-ish story...no win, just makes you go...Hmmmmm.

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 12:22 PM
I feel for you Rob....... Been in kind of the same deal.....

I wrote about this awhile back..... I was employed by a paint contractor from Syria [ In Kentucky ], , He started workin' illegals that were laborers NOT painters.....

One of my co-workers was brought in the office for some reason..... The conversation was about his work not being up to par.... He explained that our work was fine but we had to staighten up all the bad work by the " Mexicans "......

He was told " Thats racist " Those ' spanish fellows " did not ever call him " whitey " did they ? He was scatching his head thinkin' WTF .....

I'm from America , soooooo...... I'm American..... they are from Mexico , soooooo.... they are Mexican.... them boys have never been to Spain, so in his view , NOT Spanish....

Well it was not a couple months before us whity's were slowly removed..... there is one buddy of mine thats still there & tells me whats goin' on ....

Lucky for me we did not get into a racist thing when I was let go...... Cause I would have explained to him that calling them Mexican was not racist but I could tell him some names that are......

It's a dam shame for someone to think this of me or you..... I'm sure your momma raised you like me ....... We are all humans regardless of color or nationality.....& that a**holes are a**holes no matter where your from.......Can't Change Stupid...

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 12:28 PM
Think of it this way, Rob you did every you could for these people and then some.

If they are ungrateful , then that is thier shortcoming, not yours.

God Bless you for your kindness to them.

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 12:30 PM
Darryl wasn't from Mexico eh ?
Glad he was there Rob. Some people walk around with a chip on their shoulder and they play the system for their benefit. These folks should have thanked you.

 

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You should have said that It's hard doing the job you are responsible for doing when clients don't provide the necessary information from the start and the right client isn't present for the lesson.

As a white social worker in of color communities for a lot of years, I find the best way to handle things is to stay clam and articulate very clearly what is going on from your perspective. One woman once said I was being racist for firing a black subordinate. She said at a meeting, "well I won't support the program because you are firing so and so. I said, well the firing is not under discussion and I am sorry if you feel you cannot participate but the resources are here for any tenant who wants to take part in the program. I think she thought I was gonna be scared too meet her threat because I needed tenants on the side of the program because I was a white project manager. Well, the program was never about me was it?

My white liberal manager could not believe I had the balls to call the woman's bluff. In fact the woman did participate and even was a good tenant leader until she was bought off by a city building manager with a larger apartment. It's a rat eat rat world no matter what business you're in. Some people are creeps who try to get over and they are in every race and ethnicity. And some people are good people no matter. I find sticking to the facts, and ignoring the anger, when you are in a defensive position the most important thing to remember to do.

Once I found out the daughter wasn't there, I would have called an end to the session and told the mother and father to schedule another session with the appropriate client present (if that is an acceptable response for your particular work environment). You were not aware of who the client was because someone else didn't do their job. In the future I would make sure I know that before starting every session even if it was someone else's responsibility to tell you. Miscommunication makes a lot of other things go awry.


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I had a REALLY, REALLY tough day at work yesterday and before I go on, let me say that I've already somewhat moved on and am going to just "let it go" (I HOPE) and not let it bother me. But some of the sourness still lingers; yesterday when it happened I was in a complete state of shock.

As some of you know, I'm a Respiratory Therapist. I'm working full-time now for a home care company. A large percentage of my duties is to issue a cpap device to patients who come into the office and explain to them how to use it.

Yesterday morning a Mexican-American family of three came in: An adult couple toting a boy who was maybe two years old. As I walked them in, as I sometimes do, I was playing with the kid, making faces and making him laugh, just making them feel comfortable. The woman was carrying the machine, which she said she received at home. So they were there JUST for instructional purposes; usually I both issue the machine and instruct them on it. She said she received no cpap mask with it (you cannot wear one without a special mask). I went to the director of customer service and got approval to issue them a mask, even though it was not on their work order. (**FAVOR #1**). Her English seemed very limited, so I asked it they spoke English. She replied, "My husband." So I explained use of the machine to them both, figuring what she doesn't get, he will. I had been having a busy morning, and around this time, as I often do, needing more room on the large conference room table, I took an empty box or two sitting on the table and threw them on the floor.

I fit her for the mask as I always do. Then also, as I always do, I hooked her up to the machine with the mask on to give her a short trial run. She pulled the mask off after maybe 45 seconds, saying, "I don't like it. It's not for me, it's for my daughter. We have a 14 year old daughter.......it's for her." About this time, the secretary who had set up the appointment appeared in the doorway. I explained to her in a calm, NOT confrontational manner, "Erlinda, if the patient is not present here, you need to tell me." She apologized and said that she knew this, but forgot to tell me. NO ONE, not the secretary or the family had told me that I was putting a mask on someone who was not even the patient. Technically I have to throw that mask away now because I have placed it on the face of someone who it will not be issued to. However I made an exception here, and told them, "Alright, because it's for your daughter, I'll give you the mask anyway." (**FAVOR #2**).

They got up to leave, and that's when it all imploded. The Father looked straight at me and angrily said, "What are you mad about?!" I said, "I'm not mad. What are you talking about?". He said, "Yes you are! I saw you throwing things around the room! Is it because we're Mexican?!" Erlinda told me that when they left, he asked for my name.

I was in a state of shock for the rest of the day. Throwing things around the room? Because I threw an empty box or two off of the table, now I'm a racist?? If you've got this far, you've read my post: I was nothing but nice to them from the time they walked in, and did them TWO favors which resulted in them being able to take a mask home for their daughter to wear with her machine. I am still somewhat in a state of shock over being accused of being racially prejudiced after trying to provide the best customer service I could.

I sat down in my office within the next hour and just HAD to blow off a little steam, so I asked the head of customer service, Darryl, (who just happens to be black) in to my office and I related the entire incident to him. Darryl is new to the company like me, both of us have only been there maybe 10 weeks each. I have to say that Darryl really smoothed things over a bit. His explanation was, "Some people are just stupid, and in their stupidity they look for ways to make them feel better about themselves. And they're probably too stupid to know they're stupid, so it's a vicious cycle." That one made me laugh, and he cheered me up just a little, I have to say.

I don't know what else to say, other than to repeat the title of this thread: Sometimes It's Hard Being a White Male. I am still somewhat in shock over this and probably will be for a long time.

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 02:37 PM
Angela: I appreciate your interesting input. But there is another angle on this that you are not seeing. Yeah, you're white like me, and in your job obviously you've had to deal with similar circumstances. You are not, however, a 6'4", 325 lb male. When I am more assertive, I am in immediate danger of being labeled intimidating, threatening and angry. I was VERY assertive in a similar situation at a different job only last summer, and would you like to know what happened to me? I WAS PUT ON SUSPENSION BY MY EMPLOYER. Thankfully my boss there loved me to death and appreciated me and gave me a great reference anyway, which is partly why I have the job I do now.

Now I will be honest and tell you that I was a bit out of control in that incident where I was put on suspension and made the mistake of letting my emotions get involved. I learned from that. The point I'm trying to make is that, because of my size and being a man, it's a very, very thin line I have to walk. Based on that experience last summer, I've chosen to take the calm, less assertive approach. I think it's wise, both for my reputation and my employment status. This will pass, I wasn't confrontational to anyone, and I already spoke to the head of customer service and the branch manager and they were both very understanding and supportive.





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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 05:22 PM
I feel for you
I have had only 2 major conflicts one was with a former venuzalin neighbor
and the other is with a japanese/american

and both tryed to get a create a confrontation between me and a black person
and when that didnt work for them

they both referred to me as a Nword Lover


but their has been 8 people via the net refer to me as a racist

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 07:13 PM
rob, I realize it sucked to hear all that, but you have to understand that some people just look for an excuse to bring race into an issue. That said, Ive been called racist for simply doing my job too. It pisses me off, but I tend to write it off as that persons issue, not mine.

 

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Phew, that is a tough story...but I can only guess we (white males) have no idea what it looks like from their (non white) point of view.


Precisely. The times Ive been discriminated against, I hated it...it angered me immensely.

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But my guess is we are going to become more familiar with their point of view more than it was ever anticipated.


Heaven forbid if we should see their point of view more clearly. I think more awareness of the issue might actually help to bring about more positive changes for groups that are discriminated against.

 

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I had a REALLY, REALLY tough day at work yesterday and before I go on, let me say that I've already somewhat moved on and am going to just "let it go" (I HOPE) and not let it bother me. But some of the sourness still lingers; yesterday when it happened I was in a complete state of shock.

As some of you know, I'm a Respiratory Therapist. I'm working full-time now for a home care company. A large percentage of my duties is to issue a cpap device to patients who come into the office and explain to them how to use it.

Yesterday morning a Mexican-American family of three came in: An adult couple toting a boy who was maybe two years old. As I walked them in, as I sometimes do, I was playing with the kid, making faces and making him laugh, just making them feel comfortable. The woman was carrying the machine, which she said she received at home. So they were there JUST for instructional purposes; usually I both issue the machine and instruct them on it. She said she received no cpap mask with it (you cannot wear one without a special mask). I went to the director of customer service and got approval to issue them a mask, even though it was not on their work order. (**FAVOR #1**). Her English seemed very limited, so I asked it they spoke English. She replied, "My husband." So I explained use of the machine to them both, figuring what she doesn't get, he will. I had been having a busy morning, and around this time, as I often do, needing more room on the large conference room table, I took an empty box or two sitting on the table and threw them on the floor.

I fit her for the mask as I always do. Then also, as I always do, I hooked her up to the machine with the mask on to give her a short trial run. She pulled the mask off after maybe 45 seconds, saying, "I don't like it. It's not for me, it's for my daughter. We have a 14 year old daughter.......it's for her." About this time, the secretary who had set up the appointment appeared in the doorway. I explained to her in a calm, NOT confrontational manner, "Erlinda, if the patient is not present here, you need to tell me." She apologized and said that she knew this, but forgot to tell me. NO ONE, not the secretary or the family had told me that I was putting a mask on someone who was not even the patient. Technically I have to throw that mask away now because I have placed it on the face of someone who it will not be issued to. However I made an exception here, and told them, "Alright, because it's for your daughter, I'll give you the mask anyway." (**FAVOR #2**).

They got up to leave, and that's when it all imploded. The Father looked straight at me and angrily said, "What are you mad about?!" I said, "I'm not mad. What are you talking about?". He said, "Yes you are! I saw you throwing things around the room! Is it because we're Mexican?!" Erlinda told me that when they left, he asked for my name.

I was in a state of shock for the rest of the day. Throwing things around the room? Because I threw an empty box or two off of the table, now I'm a racist?? If you've got this far, you've read my post: I was nothing but nice to them from the time they walked in, and did them TWO favors which resulted in them being able to take a mask home for their daughter to wear with her machine. I am still somewhat in a state of shock over being accused of being racially prejudiced after trying to provide the best customer service I could.

I sat down in my office within the next hour and just HAD to blow off a little steam, so I asked the head of customer service, Darryl, (who just happens to be black) in to my office and I related the entire incident to him. Darryl is new to the company like me, both of us have only been there maybe 10 weeks each. I have to say that Darryl really smoothed things over a bit. His explanation was, "Some people are just stupid, and in their stupidity they look for ways to make them feel better about themselves. And they're probably too stupid to know they're stupid, so it's a vicious cycle." That one made me laugh, and he cheered me up just a little, I have to say.

I don't know what else to say, other than to repeat the title of this thread: Sometimes It's Hard Being a White Male. I am still somewhat in shock over this and probably will be for a long time.


You know some people are just jerks. It has nothing to do with race color religion or anything else. But what a terrible thing it is if you give some idiot you don't even know the power to upset you and give you that much pain. If you know you did the right thing then this idiot should not have the ability to upset you. He is like gum on your shoe. Forget him and feel good about the positive professional you are.

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 09:32 PM
"Heaven forbid that we should see their point of view more clearly. I think more awareness of the issue might actually help to bring about more positive changes for groups that are discriminated against."

Sorry, Squatch, I have BIG problems with THAT. I tried to help them and gave them a piece of medical equipment that I really was not authorized to issue because they misrepresented themselves. You are perpetuating racism AGAINST WHITE MALES by saying that what this man did was alright. What about MY "point of view". As usual in these discussions, the white male's "point of view" is never considered when a true liberal jumps in. You are legitimizing reverse racism. If I had it to do over again, I would take Angela's suggestion (although in a very calm, non-confrontational manner) and rescind the mask and tell them that if they wanted one, to get their daughter in here. What I'd REALLY like to do is take the motherf*cker out to the parking lot and have a real man to man discussion about this. But of course if I did that, my career would likely be over.

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 09:34 PM
"Forget him and feel good about the positive professional you are."

Thanks, Dougrhon. Good advice!

 

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What a LAME thread
 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 10:37 PM
I think your getting too upset on your job. You did throw some boxes out of the way and when the lady said the mask was not for her you got upset and yelled at the secretary the people you were servicing noticed that you were upset and thought it might be against them or some sense of frustration with the language barrier. Got to remmember like I tell all my folks that work for me we are only here to service the customer without them we have no job.

 

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  posted on 11/15/2008 at 10:53 PM
just keep doing good. No one can find fault with that.

it's tough sometimes and frustrating but you sound like you're above ignorance. Stay there.

 

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WOW phillybob, you take the cake.

"I explained to her in a calm, non-confrontational manner, 'Erlinda, if the patient is not present here, you need to tell me.' "

Now, according to YOU, it has turned into, "you got upset and yelled at the secretary."

Go ahead, twist my remarks around however you may wish. You're as much of a jerk as the customer was.

 

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You're a better man than me Rob. I would have ended the session the moment the patient wasn't there but I'm not in your line of work so what do I know. But have you considered this - That maybe these people came in purposely without the patient, and acted in a manner that would promote confrontation to give them cause for a lawsuit against your company? If it was company policy that the patient who is using the device be present, and wasn't, so if the procedure to use the device is now miscommunicated by the parents and the patient incurs a personal injury because of it, who is responsible? Many people try to devise devious methods to promote a lawsuit these days, and everyone needs to be very careful about following policy and the clarity of instructions. I'm in building construction, and boy do I have stories to tell about incidents on job sites because of the inability to communicate with non-English speaking people. It is in many cases a HUGE safety issue.
 

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Rob,

Being a White Southern Older Male and a person who has worked in a hopital enviroment, providing patient care and also in sales, I don't think you're racist, but I do see a few problems with how you handled this whole situation.

The biggest mistake happened when you made the ASSUMPTION that the woman that carried the machine in was THE PATIENT. As a Respiratory Therapist, you're a medical professional and one of things you have to do EVER TIME is verify that the person you're issueing/fitting the cpap device, and giving instruction to is THE ACTUAL PATIENT. That's one of the RESPONSIBILITIES that comes with the territory of being a Respiratory Therapist. In reading your initial post, at no time did you ask "Are you (patient's nime)?" and/or "Are YOU (patient's name) the one going to be using this machine and device'?. Truth is, you didn't find out who the real patient was until AFTER you try to fit the Patient's Mother. It's mistakes like these throughout the medical field is why there are as many lawsuits as there are. Granted yours mistake was relatively minor, but still it's the type of "mindset" that leads to medical errors. Bottom line, DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS, ESPECIALLY IN REGARDS TO YOUR PATIENTS, ALWAYS ASK AND/OR VERIFY NECESSARY INFORMATION.

Second mistake is in regards to how you removed the boxes on the conference table. You stated you "threw them on the floor". Couldn't you just as easily removed the boxes by picking them up and placing them out of the way?

Third mistake is in regards to your comment to your secretary.

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"Erlinda, if the patient is not present here, you need to tell me."


Once again from reading your initial post it would appear you made this comment to her in front of this family, which would be embarrassing for both Erlinda and the family, no matter how "calm, NOT confrontational" that you may have said it to her. Basically, you SHOULD HAVE made your comments to Erlinda privately, either after the family had left, or at least in an area were the family didn't have to hear you "correcting" her.

Persoanally, if I was your patient, and saw you doing such things , I would consider you acting in a very UNPROFESSIONAL manner, and would have said something to your supervisor. As a medical professional you need to conduct yourself in a PROFESSIONAL MANNER at all times, especially when there are Patients and family around.

The Mexican-American (btw, the acceptable term to use is 'Hispanic") man had a right to be angry with you, not because you're racist, but because your lack of PROFESSIONALISM and respect when dealing with his family. When dealing with the public you ALWAYS have to aware of how you're coming accross.

As for your buddy, Darryl comment

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Some people are just stupid, and in their stupidity they look for ways to make them feel better about themselves. And they're probably too stupid to know they're stupid, so it's a vicious cycle.


how the hell did he get a job as "Head of Customer Service"? Darryl should have told you pretty much what I just told you.

 

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  posted on 11/16/2008 at 12:59 PM
sibwlker: Your points are well taken. My response:

1. This company really loads me up with appointments. Often there are unanticipated issues which I need to deal with (such as a patient who comes in without a mask OR an order for a mask, which was the case here). I must really hustle to keep my appointment schedule and not piss off those who are waiting in the lobby. Often there are boxes on the table from equipment which was opened from the last appointment. In only ten weeks on the job, I've often thrown them on the floor, and never has anyone take offense to this, and I've seen literally hundreds of patients in only ten weeks. However, as I said, your point is well taken: These Hispanic folks (actually, the Father in particular) may have taken offense to this. I don't see why, but maybe I need to be more careful . By the way, one thing I didn't mention: After he made his racist remarks, his wife said to me, "Sorry". Obviously SHE was not offended. I stand by my stance that this guy came in with an attitude before I ever did anything. If it wasn't me throwing boxes on the floor, I suspect it would have been something else.

2. If I had it to do over again, I would make the same remark to the secretary in front of the family. WHY? Because if they have ANY brains, they will pick up on the fact that I am doing them a favor by issuing them a mask at all. In fact, as I already said in this thread, I would probably go even farther than that, and in view of this man's confrontational remarks, rescind the mask and not issue it to them at all, and tell them to bring in the daughter for a fitting. Why should I do a favor to someone who is verbally abusing me? That was probably a big mistake. They obviously do not appreciate it. And as far as identifying the patient: I step into the lobby and call any patient by name. I called the patient name, and the Mother shook her head "Yes" and followed me inside. When I call a name and someone answers in the affirmative, I am not being negligent in my duties...............NO ONE should ever answer in the affirmative when a patient's name is called, they are misrepresenting themselves. This is not like working in a hospital where everyone is wearing an identifying armband. I guess now you'll say that I should ask them for a Driver's License or some other form of identification. If you knew the fast-paced environment which I have to work in, you'd know that this would be nearly a practical impossibility. But maybe we need to start doing just that. Give me a break here: No one at this company has ever trained me to ask for identification. And as I said before, I probably should have sent them packing as soon as I found out that they had misrepresented themselves. Gotta side with angelemerald's advice there.

 

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  posted on 11/16/2008 at 01:47 PM
Rob,

You may have the technical skills to be Respiratory Therapist, but in your reply, you seem to lacking a lot of people skills in doing the job. You really do neet to "jettison" some of your, it's all about "ME" attitute, because "down the road" it's going to "backfire" on you.


 

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  posted on 11/16/2008 at 01:50 PM
WOW...........I guess I don't understand. I gave them a mask they didn't deserve, I got sh*t on by them anyway, yet "it's all about me". If you read through this thread, your opinion is certainly in the minority.

[Edited on 11/16/2008 by robslob]

 

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Rob,

Somebody needs to take a "2 x 4" upside your head because you're being STUPID. Do you REALIZE that the people you are dealing with are sick individuals with serious respiratory problems, but yet you feel that if you do anything above your "job description" that you're doing them a "favor"? Jesus "Goddamn" Christ what a "eff'ed up" attitude you have. Hate to say this Rob, but you come across as a JERK and a JACKASS, and I hope like hell if I need a Respiratory Therapist, I will never come across a Therapist with a "I'm doing you a favor" attitude like you. Hate to say it, Rob, but people like you need to be "sh*tcanned" from the profession. Perhaps, once in while, you need to consider the people that you're treating, and how they feel, and not your own whiny assed "self absorbed" what I have to go through BS. Hate to say it, Rob you come across as about a "clueless MF'er" as anyone I ever heard of. Mr "ME" is what you really are.

Btw, as for your self-absorbed comment

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If you read through this thread, your opinion is certainly in the minority.



I realized a long time ago, that there are many ignorant "ass lickers" that come around here. I'm telling you what you need to hear, and if you're smart you'll realize what I'm trying to tell you is true, and will change your attitude. Of course, I'm not going to hold my breath on that happening.

 

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  posted on 11/16/2008 at 09:57 PM
Wow Man, Mr. Sibwlkr, you are really an interesting case.

"Do you realize that the people you are dealing with are sick individuals with serious respiratory problems, but yet you feel that if you do anything above your 'job description' that you're doing them a 'favor'? ".

You have just labeled yourself as nothing but a certified stupid f*cking assh*le. READ THE THREAD: ******THE PATIENT WAS NOT EVEN PRESENT IN THE ROOM*****

Listen to me, you f*cking moron. I've been a full-time R.T. for 14 years. That right there to begin with takes more brains and balls than you're ever gonna have. Have you ever held a newborn baby's life in your hands at 3:00 in the morning while the rest of the population was sleeping? I have, and I can tell you, whether you want to believe it or not, that there were a couple of instances where that baby might never have made it if I had not been there.

I don't need any more of your insults, you're obviously a misinformed non-professional. Pile it on, man..................I'm done with your bullsh*t.

[Edited on 11/17/2008 by robslob]

 

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  posted on 11/16/2008 at 10:33 PM
Sibwlkr: Just one more thing before I drop your nonsense for good: As Darryl so astutely observed, the Mexican Father was most likely an imbecile who needed to say something to me to make him feel better about himself. It should be immediately obvious to anyone here why you identify with him so closely.

 

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