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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 12:21 PM
From out of nowhere, my 10 yr old, Rory, came to me in private and asked me
"something that's been bothering him". OK. Shoot.

"After thinking about this, are you and mom Santa Claus?
Because I want to believe he's real, but I really think it's you."

May I ask why you're asking? Did somebody say something?

"No. Mom always watches the 'Christmas Story' movie, and at the end, the
Dad gives his boy the bb gun. You and mom always do Christmas shopping
every year. So I think it's you. But I still believe in Santa and I don't know
what to think, anymore."

(10 years old)

At this point, I wasn't sure what to say. My wife and I discussed that this would
be coming up soon. So I copped out. I said to ask BOTH mom and dad together
when his 7 yr old brother isn't around. He left looking rather worried.

So he goes to say goodnight to mom and springs the question on her.
Being the good teacher that she is, she aptly deflected the question by
sayin she believes in the the SPIRIT of Santa. (Baffle 'em with BS, eh).

Personally, I think he feels if he stops believing, he'll start losing out on
gifts or something.

I think I have to tell him the truth. At school someone is bound to tell him
Santa's not real.

How'd it go for anyone else out there with this?


 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 12:25 PM
I ended up going with the whole spirit of Santa thing. Explain to him that giving anonymously is much truer to the Christmas spirit, than giving gifts and getting the credit for it. Giving for the sake of giving. I'll bet he understands. Good luck.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 12:30 PM
I figured it out on my own when I was playing in the storage room when I was 8 or 9. I found a drum set hidden under a blanket. That, and the thank you note from Santa for the milk and cookies was in my mom's hand writing.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 12:33 PM
Watch Polar Express

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 12:34 PM
lonomon, I found out that there was no Santa when I was 10 and it was at school when the teacher said something to the affect of 'you are all old enough that you know there is not really a Santa.' I just nodded my head with the rest of the class and promptly told my younger sister when I got home. That was the year we snuck down to the stairwell at Grandma's house to check out what was really going on during the magic hours.

Good luck facing this dilemma of faith with Rory. (You will probably need to discuss this with him if you don't want him running to his own 7 year old sibling with the painful truth. )

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 12:37 PM
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Good luck facing this dilemma of faith with Rory. (You will probably need to discuss this with him if you don't want him running to his own 7 year old sibling with the painful truth. )


That's exactly why I didn't say anything. I know he'll blab to his brother or say something
to a class mate and upset them.

Still needs to be done.

Oh, and watched the Polar Express (book, so much better!) so that might also be what's
on his mind.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 12:54 PM
No Santa? Man, I'm always the last to know anything!! When did this happen? Some elf do a Lizzie Borden on him?

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 01:41 PM
He gave you the answer, you just overlooked it.

"Because I want to believe he's real, but I really think it's you."

He wants to believe, so let him, encourage him even. Childhood innocence is lost soon enough man, give your son another 60 days to believe in the magic and the joy. Convince him Santa's real and by Easter he'll accept the truth in his own head/heart.

We went through the same thing with my 9 y/o last year. We thought he knew, but he kept saying things that led us to think, maybe he didn't. So no one said anything, and he didn't ask, and we had one last Christmas with him believing.

It's such a special time for a child, and it's so different once they know the truth, don't YOU want him to hang on for another year too?

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 01:45 PM
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He gave you the answer, you just overlooked it.

"Because I want to believe he's real, but I really think it's you."
You are so right, GAF - these are the precious times in children's lives and innocence is lost soon enough.

 

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  posted on 10/30/2008 at 02:31 PM
My older brothers ruined it for me. My older brother who already had his license at the time told me he ran over Santa Claus in the car and wouldn't be coming this year. Man, I cried until Christmas. He used the same thing on the Easter Bunny too. I thought the world was coming to an end....................

 

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