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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 12:37 AM
Today was a tough one. I had to sign the papers putting Mom into a nursing facility. I will be there daily as usual, and I thank God I still have her with me. 5 weeks ago I had prepared myself for the worst, but due to the prayers from HTW, and our surrounding churches, I feel I have many more months, to years with her. At 90 she is so much more in control of her thoughts, and has more strength than people there many yrs younger then her. The advisors there basically let me know that they could do a much better job then family, plus I can sign her out and take her places when she is in full recovery. I spent an afternoon in the physical therapy department with her, and other patients passing rubber balls, and helping with their therapy. Every type injury, and stroke patients you could imagine. I plan on doing this several days a week from here out as I found it very rewarding. It kind of reminded me of when my sons were little playing with them. To put smiles on these precious folks faces is priceless. If you have a little extra time, I highly recommend doing some type of volunteer work in some capacity. We bikers do our share of charitable work. but this is really special. Kevin

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 01:17 AM
to be 90 and have youre thoughts together is amazing im hoping she is her for you to enjoy for many years

you should talk to the faculity she is in if they have any patients that are bikers

its pretty shocking how many bikers admit themselves into assaited living facilties
after being in horrible acidents

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 07:04 AM
Kevin, kudos to you for passing on the volunteer word.

How fortunate you are to have your mom still, and at 90! How fortunate she is that you care so much for her to be there and keep her close in your thoughts. Although it may have been a difficult decision, it sounds like you definitely made the right one. Someone will always be there, where maybe before there were some times that your family members couldn't be. She will get great care, and with you there as often as you say, you will ensure that.

Good luck and have fun with your mom!

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 07:29 AM
Kevin, you're a good son. "Honor thy mother and father" indeed.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 08:14 AM
You are BOTH lucky- what a marvelous thing you have done. It's hard to give up the care of someone you love, but you certainly have made the right decision. And you are both blessed to have each other.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 08:20 AM
Kevin, today I'm going to look at facilities to place my mom. She at 83, while healthy as a horse, has Alzheimers. And while by no means completely gone, the strain of taking care of her has become ... more than my family can take. I believe it is going to be in her best interest, but it won't make it any easier. I'm glad everything seems to beworking out fine in your case. And may God bless you and your family.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 08:20 AM
There's a special place in heaven awaiting both of you. Good luck, Kevin.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 08:37 AM
I know how hard this was for you Kevin, but i know you made the right decision and did it out of love and the best interest of your mother. I am not surprised to hear that you have become involved with the facility - you are a good brother and a great son.
 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 08:38 AM
Kevin....bless you and your mom, can't even imagine what you had to go through but know you've made the right choice. Love to you both....

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 08:42 AM
She took care of you all those years, and you are now honoring her by taking care of her. Bless you for that.
 
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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 08:57 AM
I volunteer all over the place.

A hospital, a rescue mission and a school for kids with disabilities.

Rewarding doesn't even begin to describe the feeling. It's awesome.

We had our dad in a home for a spell and the folks there were great but he got sicker than they could handle so he went to an ICU.

I'll pray for you and yours, Kevin, and God bless.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 10:08 AM
My father spent the last 3 years of his life in an assisted living facility - after my mother died,there was no way we could look after him properly.Tough decision,but definitely the right one,they took excellent care of him.

My sister and I took turns spending Saturdays with him and we both used to bring our dogs to visit. If they are allowed ,and the dog is suitable for socializing ,the other residents love seeing the animals and petting them etc.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 10:17 AM
Its sad when your parents get old. I still have both of my parents at 87 and 88. We are blessed everyday they spend with us. Both my parents still come in to the office everyday. I am so fortunate to see them as much as I do. Today is my mothers Birthday. Happy Birthday Mom.


You helping your mom out and helping out at the facility just shows your a great person...Bless You. The world needs a lot more folks like you.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 10:24 AM
Bless your heart, Kevin - you are a wonderful son and a great person for making what could be a sad situation into an opportunity to do something for others. Angels are smiling on you, Kevin, and I think you just brightened the days of quite a few people - not only those you are helping through giving your time but those of us here who have been touched by your generousity of spirit. You put a smile on my face and warmth in my heart, for sure. Your mom is a lucky woman.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 11:02 AM
Kevin, I can't imagine that this was an easy choice....sometimes the right choices are the hardest ones to make..

but I am really happy for you that you still have your mom...going to say a prayer for you both..

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 11:07 AM
Kevin, you're a good son and man. Bless you!!!

Volunteering is so rewarding!!! I volunteer at the nursing home in my home town. A group of us get together on a Saturday night every month and play music. And I don't mean church music either. They get that every other day of the week. To see the folks in there light up at songs they used to dance to as youngsters, makes it all worth while to me. And the families love it too. It's happy time for everybody.

 

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Thank you all. I know it was the right decision. The nurses are fantastic, and Mom has been going to some of the singing, and church services there. I worked with therapy again today, and am really enjoying helping out there. It was hard to tell her that it would be her home, but I am moving more of her personal items there this weekend to make it more comfortable. This morning I ran into an old friend who I thought was visiting someone there. Come to find out he lives there as a patient at 50. It floored me. He has a brain aneurism and completely blacks out several times a month. We used to party alot together many years ago, but he never slowed down. He told me it was directly linked to that. I am counting my blessings today.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 03:44 PM
Man,

You did the right thing....

Been in your shoes before. Keep your chin up.

Your family are in my prayers and thoughts....

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 03:46 PM
Kevin - you did the right thing, even though it was terribly hard. Sending some more prayers and comfort vibes.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 04:39 PM
God Bless you and your Mom.

I hope she continues to recover well and has many more years with you.

When you love someone so much, you never want them to "go away".

No matter how old they are.

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 05:23 PM
take good care kev its an honorable thing you are doing....honor is something that sadly is becoming more and more scarce these days peace on you and yours bro

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 05:40 PM
Kevin, you are just a remarkable person! God Bless you and I really think volunteer work is such a wonderful thing. My good friend who retired 2 years ago delivers meals on wheels which I think is just great!!

 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 09:46 PM
Best wishes my friend. She is blessed to have you in her life.
 

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  posted on 9/26/2008 at 10:00 PM
Your Mother must be a wonderful woman to have raised such a good son.
God love you, both.

 

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