Don't click or your IP will be banned


Hittin' The Web with the Allman Brothers Band Forum
You are not logged in

< Last Thread   Next Thread >Ascending sortDescending sorting  
Author: Subject: This makes me p***ed off!

Zen Peach





Posts: 24984
(25100 all sites)
Registered: 8/20/2004
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 01:05 PM
Divorced parents battling, a child fights for his life

News Story



PEABODY - Eric J. Fraser wrapped his burly arms yesterday around the slight figure of his 8-year-old son, Jeremy, who doctors say will soon die, allegedly because the autistic child's mother failed to get him needed cancer treatment.

"He's declining," said Fraser, who is seeking hospice care for Jeremy. "I feel like my son already has his wings."

Fraser spoke one day after his former wife and Jeremy's mother, Kristen A. LaBrie, was arraigned in Salem District Court on one count of child endangerment.

LaBrie, 36, who pleaded not guilty and was released on personal recognizance, could not be reached for comment yesterday.

In a report filed in court, Salem police alleged that LaBrie delayed chemotherapy appointments a dozen times, disrupting a carefully scheduled treatment plan.

She also failed to administer home doses of the chemotherapy and to collect prescriptions at the drugstore, police said.

"Due to Ms. LaBrie's failure to provide Jeremy with his life-saving cancer medication, his cancer has returned," police wrote.

"His cancer has returned quicker and stronger than under ordinary circumstances. He now has been diagnosed with a 10 percent chance of survival."

According to Fraser, police reports, and records in Essex Probate and Family Court, Jeremy Fraser was diagnosed with cancer in 2006 and was to be treated at Massachusetts General Hospital, where doctors told Fraser his son had a good prognosis.

The child now has fully developed leukemia, said Fraser, who was given full custody after his son's medical plight was discovered.

The couple divorced in 2005, with LaBrie receiving physical custody; Fraser had visitation rights every other weekend.

But Fraser said he was not part of his son's life between March and December 2007, a decision he said he made to protect Jeremy after his relationship with LaBrie had disintegrated after months of what he said were threats, both verbal and physical, to him and his family.

It would be better for his son, he determined, if he were to step aside.

"It just never stopped, so to continue to basically support my child, I basically had to withdraw from my son, because I knew something bad was going to happen," said Fraser, who reappeared in his son's life last Christmas. "It was a very hard decision for me to make, to walk away for that period of time."

LaBrie contended in probate court papers that Fraser willingly chose to abandon his son long before the cancer was discovered. In court papers filed in 2004, 2006, and last year, LaBrie said that Fraser was a chronic no-show for visitation.

"Father consistently does not see his child," LaBrie wrote in April 2007. "No contact with school or doctors during child's chemotherapy, no assistance with care."

LaBrie demanded an end to Fraser's parental rights, which was denied by a judge last December when she failed to show up in court, records show.

In mid-February, when LaBrie brought Jeremy to MGH for a routine appointment, doctors determined that he was not getting the care he needed and was in danger if he was allowed to return home with his mother. MGH alerted both Fraser and the Department of Social Services.

A DSS spokeswoman said yesterday that the child protection agency had been involved with the family in the past, but terminated its involvement in 2005. DSS became involved again after MGH stepped in.

Fraser said he has no idea why his former wife allegedly decided not to get her son medical care.

Dr. Robert Sege, medical director of the child protection team at Boston Medical Center, said there may be many reasons why a parent does not make sure a child gets treatment.

The parent may simply not understand how serious the consequences can be, said Sege, who played no role in Jeremy Fraser's case.

Also, he said, "people have real issues with the logistics of life - with transportation, with child care. Life doesn't stop just because you have a chronically ill kid."

Caring for an ill child is no easy job, he said.

"Families with healthy kids and working parents are stressed out as a baseline, and add to that going to multiple doctors' appointments, keeping track, being on time, making a child take a medication they may not want, and sometimes with chemo, the child is uncomfortable. All the chronic diseases of childhood are really difficult for families."

But ultimately, Sege said, "the bottom line is that the child needs to get lifesaving care."

Now that Fraser has been given full custody by the courts and LaBrie has been ordered to stay away, Fraser said he wants to spend as much time with his son as he can, given the demands of daily life.

"It comes down to quality of life," the father said.

Fraser added that he recently told LaBrie: "If you ever get a chance to see that little boy again, pick him up and tell him you're sorry."

 

____________________
Co-Owner of Charlie Tabers Football

 
Replies:

True Peach



Karma:
Posts: 14567
(14567 all sites)
Registered: 3/28/2006
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 01:38 PM
Terrible!

 

____________________
Pete

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 19784
(21124 all sites)
Registered: 3/23/2006
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 02:11 PM
What in the hell is wrong with people nowadays?!?!?!?

 

____________________

 

Extreme Peach



Karma:
Posts: 1625
(1629 all sites)
Registered: 2/12/2008
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 02:37 PM
Wow. That's just......I can't even comprehend how someone could do that.

 

____________________

 

True Peach



Karma:
Posts: 12324
(12447 all sites)
Registered: 2/25/2002
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 02:42 PM


Hope she burns in hell, but not before a life sentence in prison..

 

____________________
"Political correctness is a doctrine -- fostered by a delusional, illogical minority and rapidly promoted by mainstream media -- which holds forth the proposition that it is entirely possible to pick up a piece of $hit by the clean end."

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 24984
(25100 all sites)
Registered: 8/20/2004
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 02:44 PM
There is no death penalty in Mass. We have been pushing for one but no go. Most likely charged with manslaughter.

 

____________________
Co-Owner of Charlie Tabers Football

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 40434
(41898 all sites)
Registered: 7/19/2007
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 03:00 PM
Absolutely heinous and abominable!

 

____________________
Front feet doin' the shuffle, back feet too, love them good ol' Georgia blues


 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 18593
(18594 all sites)
Registered: 11/20/2006
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 03:13 PM
You need a license to drive but any fool can have a child. I only hope the father does a better job of taking care of this child now that he has custody ... article indicates he was not a presence in this child's life previously which I find suspicious (and sad ).

 

____________________
"Come on down to the Mermaid Cafe and I will buy you a bottle of wine, and we'll laugh and toast to nothing and smash our empty glasses down..."

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 24984
(25100 all sites)
Registered: 8/20/2004
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 03:49 PM
Like me, most fathers in Mass rarely obtain custody. We are always seen as the agressors or ones that never had an impact on their growing up. I ask you to talk to my kids and see who they would rather be with. Unfortunately I do not 50 grand to fight for custody so I am forced with visitation twice a week and everyother weekend.

 

____________________
Co-Owner of Charlie Tabers Football

 

Ultimate Peach



Karma:
Posts: 3761
(3845 all sites)
Registered: 5/28/2005
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 03:52 PM
How could a woman to that to her own child...

 

____________________


"I said don't ask no stupid questions and I won't send you away,
If you want to talk fishing, well I guess that'll be okay"

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 67055
(67572 all sites)
Registered: 10/27/2002
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 03:58 PM
I was all prepared for the "her religion doesn't allow it" excuse.

She doesn't even have that lame excuse.

Unbelievable.

 

____________________
Hittin' The Web::Hugh Duty Memorial Giveaway has begun!

RIP Hugh Duty

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 18593
(18594 all sites)
Registered: 11/20/2006
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 03:59 PM
quote:
"It just never stopped, so to continue to basically support my child, I basically had to withdraw from my son, because I knew something bad was going to happen," said Fraser, who reappeared in his son's life last Christmas. "It was a very hard decision for me to make, to walk away for that period of time."
Erik - I think that in most states it is still common for the female parent to get custody. The thing in the article that concerned me is the above italicized portion of quote. I think if you are a parent you have a responsibility to stay in your childs life not withdraw from it. Unlike you who seek to have contact with your children, this comment makes this father sound like he made a conscious decision to 'walk away' and avoid contact.

 

____________________
"Come on down to the Mermaid Cafe and I will buy you a bottle of wine, and we'll laugh and toast to nothing and smash our empty glasses down..."

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 67055
(67572 all sites)
Registered: 10/27/2002
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 04:18 PM
Deb, I didn't take it that way. From the sound of it, he was saying things would be better if he stayed away.

quote:

But Fraser said he was not part of his son's life between March and December 2007, a decision he said he made to protect Jeremy after his relationship with LaBrie had disintegrated after months of what he said were threats, both verbal and physical, to him and his family.

 

____________________
Hittin' The Web::Hugh Duty Memorial Giveaway has begun!

RIP Hugh Duty

 

Ultimate Peach



Karma:
Posts: 3800
(3797 all sites)
Registered: 12/11/2001
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 06:15 PM
I wouldn't wish divorce on my worst enemy. But, I don't understand why people view the solution as only one of parent having custody. Joint custody isn't that hard. My kids live with me 1/3 of the time. I live 3 miles from my ex. The word visitation doesn't even exist in our agreement. I wouldn't let it. My 1/3 time is during times when they often don't have school (weekends, holidays, vacations) so I get a good bit of dedicated time with my kids. I see them every week, if not have them with me multiple nights every single week.

I could do more and lots of Dad's out there do. I just don't understand why in most cases people don't think joint custody. Even if someone was a lousy spouse or cheated or obandoned their spouse doesn't mean they are a lousy parent who should be kept from their kids. I realize there are also plenty of cases of crazy ex-spouses out there who wont' cooperate (like this lady), but more often than not people fight & involve attorneys and judges unnessecarily.

Rant off. Sorry. It burned me up reading this thing.

 

____________________
Tim L.

 

World Class Peach



Karma:
Posts: 5801
(5856 all sites)
Registered: 5/4/2005
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 09:28 PM
The human condition. Unfortunately some things will never change. May the little boy find the strength and power to live and beat this terrible disease.

 

____________________
"It's all about Allman Brothers pride." T Thompson Greek Theater, Los Angeles 5/6/2005

 

Ultimate Peach



Karma:
Posts: 3800
(3797 all sites)
Registered: 12/11/2001
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 10:18 PM
OK....my post came off preachy. Sorry about that. I just hate divorce and hate the idea that people assume the win/lose thing with battles, attorneys, etc. I could have written it better without lecturing. I'll pray for this child for sure tonight.

 

____________________
Tim L.

 

True Peach



Karma:
Posts: 12324
(12447 all sites)
Registered: 2/25/2002
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/2/2008 at 11:17 PM
quote:
OK....my post came off preachy. Sorry about that. I just hate divorce and hate the idea that people assume the win/lose thing with battles, attorneys, etc. I could have written it better without lecturing. I'll pray for this child for sure tonight.


Tim,

Didn't sound preachy to me at all. In fact it made perfect sense....

 

____________________
"Political correctness is a doctrine -- fostered by a delusional, illogical minority and rapidly promoted by mainstream media -- which holds forth the proposition that it is entirely possible to pick up a piece of $hit by the clean end."

 

Ultimate Peach



Karma:
Posts: 3636
(3636 all sites)
Registered: 5/1/2002
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/3/2008 at 06:49 AM
quote:
quote:
"It just never stopped, so to continue to basically support my child, I basically had to withdraw from my son, because I knew something bad was going to happen," said Fraser, who reappeared in his son's life last Christmas. "It was a very hard decision for me to make, to walk away for that period of time."
Erik - I think that in most states it is still common for the female parent to get custody. The thing in the article that concerned me is the above italicized portion of quote. I think if you are a parent you have a responsibility to stay in your childs life not withdraw from it. Unlike you who seek to have contact with your children, this comment makes this father sound like he made a conscious decision to 'walk away' and avoid contact.


Lolasdeb:

Before you damn this father for withdrawing, please read some articles on parental alienation. It's common for the parent that has primary residence with the kids to do everything possible to isolate them from, and turn them against, the other parent. It wouldn't surprise me one bit if this mother did it. I will generalize here because the kids typically reside with the mother, but dads can do it too, but resentful/spiteful women can make life very hard on dads trying to be good parents to their kids. In turn, it makes life rough for the kids, but they don't care. When a mom is telling a kid that they are bad for loving their dad, making the kids' lives miserable when they show any affection/respect/love for the other parent, then it genuinely could be in the kids' best interest for the dad to withdraw until things cool off.

Greg

 

____________________
Walk down on the street and leave, my blues at home

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 18593
(18594 all sites)
Registered: 11/20/2006
Status: Offline

  posted on 7/3/2008 at 10:20 AM
quote:
quote:
quote:
"It just never stopped, so to continue to basically support my child, I basically had to withdraw from my son, because I knew something bad was going to happen," said Fraser, who reappeared in his son's life last Christmas. "It was a very hard decision for me to make, to walk away for that period of time."
Erik - I think that in most states it is still common for the female parent to get custody. The thing in the article that concerned me is the above italicized portion of quote. I think if you are a parent you have a responsibility to stay in your childs life not withdraw from it. Unlike you who seek to have contact with your children, this comment makes this father sound like he made a conscious decision to 'walk away' and avoid contact.

Lolasdeb:

Before you damn this father for withdrawing, please read some articles on parental alienation. It's common for the parent that has primary residence with the kids to do everything possible to isolate them from, and turn them against, the other parent. It wouldn't surprise me one bit if this mother did it. I will generalize here because the kids typically reside with the mother, but dads can do it too, but resentful/spiteful women can make life very hard on dads trying to be good parents to their kids. In turn, it makes life rough for the kids, but they don't care. When a mom is telling a kid that they are bad for loving their dad, making the kids' lives miserable when they show any affection/respect/love for the other parent, then it genuinely could be in the kids' best interest for the dad to withdraw until things cool off.

Greg
I went back and read the original article and can see Ron's point - the father may have been stepping back for the welfare of the child. Divorce is a difficult thing for everybody involved. I am a child of divorce and luckily my parents had the sense not to involve my brother and sister and I in their fight (too much). But I was involved with somebody for awhile who went through a very acrimonious divorce and both he and his ex did involve their 3 children in their fight and played games with the kids along the lines of 'me or him/me or her' which messed all of these kids up (and it's difficult as an outsider to intervene on the child's behalf and at their request when dealing with such a stubborn and selfish mindset from the parents when their anger has taken them to the point of having all rational thought clouded). Today those children are adults (well 2 of them are - 1 ended up taking her life) and the affects of this screwed up fight between their parents (which is still going on well into it's 2nd decade) is only too apparent in the relationships they have with both parents and the relationships they have with others. I'm sorry if my reaction to the article seemed to be biased against the father - that was not my intent. I'm just sensitive to the plight of children who have been placed in the middle of an adult fight and the lifelong damage that can be done. Believe me - I am aware and even haunted by the effects of parental alientation on children.



[Edited on 7/3/2008 by lolasdeb]

 

____________________
"Come on down to the Mermaid Cafe and I will buy you a bottle of wine, and we'll laugh and toast to nothing and smash our empty glasses down..."

 
 


Powered by XForum 1.81.1 by Trollix Software


Privacy | Terms of Service
The ALLMAN BROTHERS BAND name, The ALLMAN BROTHERS name, likenesses, logos, mushroom design and peach truck are all registered trademarks of THE ABB MERCHANDISING CO., INC. whose rights are specifically reserved. Any artwork, visual, or audio representations used on this web site CONTAINING ANY REGISTERED TRADEMARKS are under license from The ABB MERCHANDISING CO., INC. A REVOCABLE, GRATIS LICENSE IS GRANTED TO ALL REGISTERED PEACH CORP MEMBERS FOR The DOWNLOADING OF ONE COPY FOR PERSONAL USE ONLY. ANY DISTRIBUTION OR REPRODUCTION OF THE TRADEMARKS CONTAINED HEREIN ARE PROHIBITED AND ARE SPECIFICALLY RESERVED BY THE ABB MERCHANDISING CO.,INC.
site by Hittin' the Web Group with www.experiencewasabi3d.com