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  posted on 7/13/2007 at 09:19 PM
its been 4 months since my parents plsit.my dad already has a firlfriend,we got evicted from out place,and were moving in with his girlfriend that hes only know a month but there talkin bout gettin a home together and "commitment" as he called.my da says hes trying to fins someone to help raise us from a motherly stand point.but what my dad cant realize is after the hell my mom put us thru and everyhting else we dont want a mother we want a father that will pulll us threw this hell.

 

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  posted on 7/13/2007 at 10:25 PM
My heart goes out to you.

Hang in there.

My wife has made things tougher on me & the kids for years.

We try to get by it.

Don't judge your dad too harshly, I'm sure he has your best interests at heart.

Feel free to PM me if you want to vent.

[Edited on 7/14/2007 by PhotoRon286]

 

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  posted on 7/13/2007 at 10:37 PM
Brother, I too have lived thru divorce, and had to grow up with all that crap. Like PhotoRon286 said, reach out if you need us little brother. Sometimes just an open space to piss and gripe is all thats needed to make the BS tolerable! Hang in there brother!

 

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  posted on 7/13/2007 at 10:53 PM
If you were evicted, your dad may have taken his only opportunity to find housing(I'm not buying the mother figure thing). Inserting a relative stranger into your life is a bad idea, especially so soon after the split w/ your mom. Recommend you spend as much time as you can w/ friends and their hopefully more stable families and focus on activities you enjoy. It took me a while to realize my divorcing parents were imperfect like anybody else and you should focus on your life while they try to sort out theirs. Good luck.

 

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  posted on 7/13/2007 at 11:03 PM
Brock has a good point. Remember you parents are human too, and need time to deal with the difficult parts of life like everyone else. Thankfully, my Stepdad kept our house open to all my friends who had kinda rocky homes. I guess he knew that was what we as kids really needed too. Stability doesn't always have to come from your own parents. Just be carefull about who you get involved with. I learned the hard way that you can easily get hooked up with the wrong folks, when you are looking for a family atmosphere!

 

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  posted on 7/14/2007 at 12:46 AM
You got plenty of kin here little bro.

 

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  posted on 7/14/2007 at 12:51 AM
communication... tell dad your feelings... He'll get where you're comin from, perhaps. maybe now... maybe later ? At least he'll know it and you'll have nothing to resent years on down the road if you don't. Will be prayin for you.

 

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  posted on 7/14/2007 at 12:56 AM
I'm so sorry you're going through such a tough time. Growing up is difficult on its own without having to deal with your parents' problems. But remember....the same fire that melts butter forges steel. Hold your head up, keep yourself together, take it one day at a time and when you need to lean on someone, you're always welcome in here.....there are a lot of broad shoulders.

 

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  posted on 7/14/2007 at 08:07 AM
Hey Kid. I can relate. My folks divorced when I was four, and my mom remarried to a guy who did a Jekyl and Hyde on us. It was 5 years of hell, but mom finally got the nuts to divorce him and our lives got better.

Kid, the crap we have to go through in life is what shapes us into the adults we become later. We all have stuff that we have to deal with that is unpleasant. How we deal with it and respond to it helps us grow and become wiser. It may not seem like a growing experience at the time, but through these experiences, we gain wisdom. Wisdom helps us to understand things better. And when we understand, we can better accept the things we are dealing with.

I'd like to offer you this scripture. I don't know if you are a religious person, but The Bible is a great source of wisdom.

James 1:2-5
2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,
3 because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.
4 Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

Perseverance...is when you keep plugging along when you don't necessarily feel like it. We all are faced with trials and turmoil in our lives. But remember this, trials and turmoil are temporary things. These things shall pass, and brighter days lay ahead for you.

Keep your chin up, young brother. We're all here for you and rooting for you to come through this. We'll help any way we can. PEACE

BDOB

 

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  posted on 7/14/2007 at 09:13 AM
TK101 -
Hang in there. You've gotten a lot of good advice from great people. Like others here, I've been down this same road, it sucks, but you'll be a better and stronger person for enduring this. So when things are really bad, go find a quiet place and put on some loud music, that will always make you feel better....or.....put on some sad blues and cry your eyes out, oddly enough, that will make you feel just as good! PEACE.
DR

 
 


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