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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 12:03 PM
I want to help Dickey. He may not want my help, but I
love him and the music he has given to all of us. Is there anything
WE, as fans, as Brothers and Sisters, can do to help? This is not to be
in any way critical or judgemental, but from the love I have for the
man who has given so much and is a Brother.
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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 12:17 PM
Pray for him!!! Being an alchoholic my self I understand that even though there are times when I'm not drinking, it's always there, like a monkey on my back. No one can help such a person till we acknowledge our problem and want to make it.I've been praying for the brother for quite awhile now , and will continue to do so.
 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 12:26 PM
Go see him play while you still can.
And tell everyone you know to go see him.

 

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Then I guess time took it's toll,cut me deep,cut me cold.
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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 12:44 PM
you guys are right, i just added dickey to my prayer list for today, the rest of it is up to him.
 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 12:50 PM
Brent, thank you so much for starting this. I've been feeling the need to help him in some way, too. Really all we can do is what has been suggested already. Keep him in our hearts, thoughts, and prayers, and see him as often as we can to show our love and support.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 12:54 PM
I pray for him, a lot, and just plain talk to myself outloud (yes, I answer myself too),
about Dickey and how wish he would get clean. It hurts me to se it happening. It is
always a dream to one day see him and the orig three play music again...can you imagine the emotion in that show. I know i would be squaling from before the first note.
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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:15 PM
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I know i would be squaling from before the first note


Especially if they started w/ Blue Sky there isn't anything better than when they get locked in to this tune.

I would love to see Brother Dickey get it together but I don't mean to judge him. Hell I see alot of the same personality traits in myself.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:21 PM
Everybody in their right mind is pulling for Dickey. And not many can cast the first stone--certainly not me. You get exasperated with him sometimes. And I don't have patience with performers who don't respect the people that pay good money to see them, whether it's Dickey, Gregg, or anybody else.

On the other hand, what would life have been without Dickey Betts? You would hope he would have enough respect for his own son to see that there's something wrong, something that needs fixing. I pray for wisdom for him, and that the right people will come into his life in time. It happened for Gregg.

 
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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:26 PM
We can "pray" all we want. Dickey, is the only one that will have to come to the realization that he alone has the Power to STOP DRINKING.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:27 PM
God Bless Dickey Betts and lay a comforting hand on him.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:34 PM
Praying for Dickey in fine, nothing wrong with that at all, but it's up to him to get the help he needs. To see an artist such as Dickey go down hill so badly is very disheartening - we want to remember him the way he was when he was healthy and productive and a bad ass guitar player. To see him on stage again with The ABB would be great, but it should be secondary to his getting well at this point. Gregg has been clean, sober, happy and very productive for almost 10 years now and it really shows on stage - but importantly it shows on his face and in his heart. Gregg is now a man at peace with himself and he deserves a lot of credit for that. I don't see that in Dickey's face - on his face I see a man struggling his demons and emotions. If Gregg can do it, Dickey can do it but he needs to take the first step and that is admitting he has a problem - and its a big one. Get well Dickey, we are pulling for you!

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:41 PM
Dickey was very mello and happy at the Atlanta show, but his drinking definitely cost the performance. He's still one the best ever, but he could be even better. His band really needs him to get it together.
 
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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:45 PM


Saint Jude help me in this sickness which is spiritual, psychological and physical. Strengthen my weak faith, no matter what may befall me. Teach me to be patient and serene in the midst of troubles. Saint Jude, help me so that nothing will upset me or weaken my determination to stay sober and abstain from alcoholic drink.


 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:46 PM
All we can do is give our prayers and support online hoping it will be seen. Being close to someone with a drinking problem is so very hard. The crew of Great Southern has stuck by him thus far as many of us have. I can imagine what the band feels, having the opportunity and honor to work with this talented man who has his demons. Betts shows last year were wonderful and I was hoping all things bad were behind him. I'm still rooting for the man and like someone already said,will always dream of seeing the founding members of The Allman Brothers Band take the same stage again one day

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 01:48 PM
Sad to say, but it may take son Duane walking away to give him the wakeup call he needs. The old rock bottom thing does sometimes work. I hope he goes the way of Greg, and even if he never plays again, I would be happy if Mr Betts found some peace for his remaining days.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 02:09 PM
We all know Dickey has had his struggles for years, did something happen recently to trigger this thread?
 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 02:13 PM
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We all know Dickey has had his struggles for years, did something happen recently to trigger this thread?

There have been recent negative posts regarding his current shows and apparant drinking inhibiting his playing (the GREAT guitar playing that he's capable of). I think this thread is just a positive response to those critical threads...instead of the bashing, how about some compassion. IMHO of course

[Edited on 5/18/2007 by lolasdeb]

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 02:19 PM
Add me to the list of folks who want to see Dickey at his best, health-wise and otherwise. Over the years I've had the pleasure of talking to him after shows, where he'd be real friendly, and other times it was best to leave him alone. I wish him the best, he's a living legend, and deserves respect as such. But the ball is in his court, so to speak.
 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 02:30 PM
Sending good vibes to Dickey. I felt the same about helping him, I always wished he would pull it off.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 02:34 PM
I love Dickey


God Blesss him

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 03:23 PM
I think itís all well and good to pray for him but he has to want to stop drinking and he may not want to do that. Unfortunately, some that have serious drinking problems donít want to stop and have no intention of doing so. They like drinking and they like the way it makes them feel, even if it makes them feel bad. They get comfortable in this space and become accustomed to the ritual. Whatever demon feeds off the drunken behavior wants and likes the reign it is afforded when the person is drinking and materializes in the form of anger, sadness, self pity, power, etc.

Whether Dickey respects his audience or not, I canít say since I donít know him personally, but I imagine when heís not under the influence he has some, if not a great deal of respect for the fans that come out to see him perform. However, an alcoholic under the influence is not the same person when they are clean and sober. Itís not fair or logical to judge them in the same way. Applying sober reasoning to a drunken personís behavior is simply futile, it means nothing to them and it only makes us angry. So while one might feel the performer is disrespectful to his or her audience for being sloppy drunk, itís likely that they have no idea theyíve offended you or while in this altered state of mind, donít care. The urge to drink is too overwhelming and takes precedence over common sense and reason. Itís very difficult to separate the two personalities, especially when you care about the Ďsoberí person and dislike the Ďdrunkí.

I donít know Dickey personally, so I canít say for sure with him, but I can speak from a great deal of experience with others. Some of you do know him personally and are close enough friends to speak with him seriously about the problem, which of course he may not see as a problem or may not want to address. I would think it would have to come from someone he loves and respects in order to have any meaning at all. Other than having a sincere and honest conversation with him when heís willing and able, there isnít much that can be done from the outside. Someone could physically drag him into rehab, but if he doesnít want to stay, he could just walk right out. I know a few of you out there are that close to him and Iím guessing youíve tried helping him before, but if you havenít, now might be a good time.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 03:36 PM
Who's to say whether his playing is suffering this year or not ? The reviews of his first couple shows over on his site are quite a bit different than what you read here, not that it's unusual to see them differ, and at least one person who was backstage stated that the man was as sober as a preacher. I'll reserve my judgement until I see my first show in a couple weeks.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 03:46 PM
i don't know dickey personally, so it would be unfair for me to assume he "is" or "isn't" something. however, people with substance abuse problems always hurt the ones that love them the most, and that is apparent in this thread and other threads i read here about dickey from the fans that love him. the mixed emotions i've read in these discussions range from sympathy and sadness, to the desire to do something to help, to anger, to frustration, to sadness, and even to disgust.
until i cleaned my act up, i caused my parents, my wife, family and friends to be burdened with all these feelings toward me. it's been 7 years and a commitment to honesty, but, i am learning i don't have to fight everyone and cause the people that love me undue pain and embarressment. if substance abuse is, indeed, dickey's problem, i hope he hits the bottom he needs to propel himself into "the" program of recovery. cause on the other side IS "peace of mind". and can you imagine how he would shine, and what a power of example he would be for others struggling. look at gregg, i don't remember having hereos growing up like the other kids, but i can honestly say i look up to gregg as a modern day hereo in a society struggling with the whole hereo identity thing. his struggles and recovery were encouraging to me in my early days of sobriety.
good luck to db, i hope he gets what it is that he needs.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 04:04 PM
YAAWWN
Gee I'm so deeply moved by all these warm & fuzzy expressions of concern or someone who is being labelled in the deep dark throes of alcoholism.
Oh, don't let this stop you from throwing your phony baloney stuff around: someone who was there, said there was no drinking being done the night of the freebird show, when many of you experts said he was drunk.
I've never read such crap in my life. The man is 63 years old, for heavens sake. Just the traveling aspect of what he does would knock half of us for a loop, never mind getting up there to expend a huge amount of energy & finesse for 2-3 hours.
More than one person has said the show last night was great, an improvement over the previous one. Just relax -- you know he'll get his chops together.

When a person starts a review by saying "train wreck -- details to follow," and then wusses out not to be heard from again, that IMO has TROLL-ism written all over it -- someone perpetuating by rote the I-hate-Dickey school of thought --
I'm sure most people sincerely appreciate Dickey and what he has contributed over the years -- but they aren't posting in this thread IMO.

 

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  posted on 5/18/2007 at 04:06 PM
I am happy that he is still making music and bringing it to cities near me this summer. However, what are peoples expectations of DBGS and who is it that you want him to be? Is there a possible rush to judgment about his performance and his drinking as well.


 
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