Don't click or your IP will be banned


Hittin' The Web with the Allman Brothers Band Forum
You are not logged in

< Last Thread   Next Thread >Ascending sortDescending sorting  
Author: Subject: Grief support / parents losing children

A Peach Supreme





Posts: 4616
(2971 all sites)
Registered: 1/8/2002
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 10:38 AM
I'm not looking for sympathy, just coming to some realizations. I lost Dale, at age 15 in 1994, a drowning accident. I lost Derek, at age 17 in 2004, a car accident. I have come to realize there is very little on the internet in terms of support groups / forums for this thing, for the parents to talk. The only one I found in a search that looked like it had substance wanted money to join!!!!! Green from the grieving.... I wish there was a site like this and a forum like this to interact on. I feel like the lone ranger sometimes. I also feel like a ghost at times..... I am sorry for anyone that understands what I mean by that, because they have bad child loss too. Maybe when I move back east soon, I will have access to in person support groups I don't have here in rural Montana....

Peace and have a great day

 

____________________
*We Speak Analog* all else is a foreign language...

 
Replies:

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 23542
(24044 all sites)
Registered: 1/2/2004
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 10:51 AM
Tony, there is a support group for parent of lost children at my church. The name of the group escapes me at this moment, but maybe there's something similar near you?

I can't imagine losing one child, let alone two. God bless you, man. Be strong. Peace.

 

____________________

 

A Peach Supreme



Karma:
Posts: 2369
(2557 all sites)
Registered: 1/6/2002
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 10:54 AM
Bird, such tragic losses to endure. My heart goes out to you. Unfortunately, I do not know of any sites.

Where are you planning to Head East to? how about the huskies?

 

____________________
Unashamedly PEACHY!!

 

True Peach



Karma:
Posts: 10333
(10334 all sites)
Registered: 12/22/2003
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 11:37 AM
Hey Tony, many hospitals can refer you to support groups, but these are geared towards those who have recently experienced a death. I realize the feelings never go away, but if you have never been fully able to grieve the loss, it stays with you much longer. You are on the money in looking for support, and I hope you find what you need.

I came close to losing one of my kids on three occasions, and that was tough enough. I cannot imagine what would have happened if she had not pulled through, much less to experience it two times.

 

____________________

We're all Bozos on this bus!

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 18593
(18594 all sites)
Registered: 11/20/2006
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 12:32 PM
Tony, PM being sent. This may take me awhile.

 

____________________
"Come on down to the Mermaid Cafe and I will buy you a bottle of wine, and we'll laugh and toast to nothing and smash our empty glasses down..."

 

Extreme Peach



Karma:
Posts: 1110
(1110 all sites)
Registered: 9/18/2004
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 12:37 PM
Time spent talking to Jesus may bring you some peace, it works for me.
I am so sorry for your losses.

 

____________________
When I die, please don't let my wife sell my guitars for what I told her I paid for them...

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 19784
(21124 all sites)
Registered: 3/23/2006
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 02:28 PM
Check out your local Hospice. The Hospice my dad was in offers support groups to people who have lost loved ones regardless of whether or not they were in Hospice. Also, it doesn't have to be a recent loss either. Very supportive people there, too. Tony, please accept my condolences. Bless you, Brother.

 

____________________

 

Extreme Peach



Karma:
Posts: 1571
(1571 all sites)
Registered: 12/30/2005
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 03:41 PM
My thougths and prayers are with you...

When I lost my beloved Tom 3 years ago, his mother was my support. Where she could turn, I could only imagine as his sister had passed 20 years earlier. She found support on line with an incredible group of people

www.grief.net and alt.support.grief

Both were wonderful and her and I have both met some people personally from this site.

 

____________________
Those who dance are considered insane by those who can't hear the music." george carlin

"Choosing the lesser of 2 evils is still choosing evil." Jerry Garcia


 

Sublime Peach



Karma:
Posts: 6440
(7608 all sites)
Registered: 4/4/2005
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 04:39 PM
Tony.... I will forget trying to console you... I really don't think there are words to express such a tragedy.... Know that most of us on here are loving people, parents, some are grandparents and some are childless... but no matter what....we have compassion, for a person in pain... your pain is one we can not see , but we know how deep it can go..

My childhood friend lost her daughter 3 yrs ago at the age of 27 , I cannot and will never ever forget her face as she walked down the isle of the church behind her daughter's casket... it sends waves of chills down my spine whenever I picture that image in my head..... I try to force it away with a Hugh gulp.... My friend has changed from this horrible loss in her life.... the one shinning star in all of this , is her daughter left behind a young daughter and you can see her in her eyes.....

I wish you peace in your soul and quiet times not to feel the hurt... Love to you

[Edited on 3/9/2007 by rainy]

 

____________________





 

Extreme Peach



Karma:
Posts: 1083
(1097 all sites)
Registered: 2/22/2004
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 05:18 PM
bird72, a hurt that never really goes away, I'm told. You keep talking to them. You can do this.

 

____________________

Not a bro - I'm a girl lol !

 

Zen Peach



Karma:
Posts: 23542
(24044 all sites)
Registered: 1/2/2004
Status: Offline

  posted on 3/8/2007 at 05:21 PM
The grief from losing my older brother is ultimately what broke my parents up. Back in the late 50's, early 60's, they didn't have the kind of grief counselling that is available now.

 

____________________

 
 


Powered by XForum 1.81.1 by Trollix Software


Privacy | Terms of Service
The ALLMAN BROTHERS BAND name, The ALLMAN BROTHERS name, likenesses, logos, mushroom design and peach truck are all registered trademarks of THE ABB MERCHANDISING CO., INC. whose rights are specifically reserved. Any artwork, visual, or audio representations used on this web site CONTAINING ANY REGISTERED TRADEMARKS are under license from The ABB MERCHANDISING CO., INC. A REVOCABLE, GRATIS LICENSE IS GRANTED TO ALL REGISTERED PEACH CORP MEMBERS FOR The DOWNLOADING OF ONE COPY FOR PERSONAL USE ONLY. ANY DISTRIBUTION OR REPRODUCTION OF THE TRADEMARKS CONTAINED HEREIN ARE PROHIBITED AND ARE SPECIFICALLY RESERVED BY THE ABB MERCHANDISING CO.,INC.
site by Hittin' the Web Group with www.experiencewasabi3d.com