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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:08 PM
So Darcie isn't due for another two weeks- August 11th. I honestly have this feeling that the baby is coming today! But here are my concerns:

1) I hear that women can get especiallly energetic days before the baby comes & when she gets off of work she wants to come home & clean the whole damn house tonight! She is harping me about getting my honey-do list done, which includes some dry wall spackling (sp?) & panelling. Every time I finish a list she comes up with another one! Concern: Do you think the baby is within days of arriving? Ladies?

2) Our obstetricians's office has a bunch of great doctors. But Darice is irritated by this mid-wife who may be on call when the baby comes. I know if she is the one that is working when Darcie finally goes there are going to be major problems. Concern: Should I talk her in to a scheudled labor & if so do you think the doc's will do it now before the due date? They told us yesterday that the baby is pretty much done developing. She is just hanging out growing before coming out.

I wasn't around when my son was born because I was in military training across the country. So this is new to me & I am a little stressed out. I think Darcie & I are both losing our minds- just in different ways.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:21 PM
Take it easy!
That's the first piece of advice.

Second - no harm in asking Darcie and then the Docs about scheduling a delivery - but I wouldn't try "convincing" Darcie of anything (if that's really what you implied...)

Again - take it easy, this is one of the best times you'll ever have in your life - exciting in a good way is what it should be.

 
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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:23 PM
right now her hormones is ragin cause her body's outta whack. it's in a woman's nature to worry bout the small stuff when she's pregnant. far as puttin her in scheduled labor, that just might be the death of you. if she goes and it lasts more than a few minutes, she gonna kill your ass for lettin em do it let the baby come when ready and trust me, when that baby gets ready to come out, EVERYBODY will know bout it just calm down, take a deep breath and i'll drink some beer for you.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:26 PM
One, that kid is coming when he/she is good and ready.

2. Your wife has the right to have the people she is comfortable with to be in the delivery room, talk to the doctor

3.congrats!

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:27 PM
RELAX - All is good... I turned into Mr. Clean for the last 2 weeks before Raelyn was born (cleaned everything) -

And unless there is a medical issue- just let it happen. I had a 95% chance of having a c-section (breach) but still just waited it out and let Raelyn come out when she was ready.

This is the most beautiful time in your life - just love your wife, make sure that the memories are of happy anticipation... not worry and stress.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:34 PM
I know you are all right. Believe me I'm not trying to force her to do anything. I guess she's just driving me a little crazy & I had to vent. I'm stretching this to-do list out though so another one doesn't pop up before she (the baby) pops out.

For those of you who know me there are other things going on that make me want to hasten the delivery, but b/c of Darcie & I's reasons for impatience not the baby- having to go back to boot camp for three & a half weeks being one of them. I just have this feeling like I am ready to fall off the edge of my chair most of the tiime right now out of disbelief & exhaustion.

Thanks again for the support. Peace~!

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:40 PM
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For those of you who know me there are other things going on that make me want to hasten the delivery, but b/c of Darcie & I's reasons for impatience not the baby- having to go back to boot camp for three & a half weeks being one of them. I just have this feeling like I am ready to fall off the edge of my chair most of the tiime right now out of disbelief & exhaustion


Now there's a reason to move it up.. I think you should speak to her with and if the doctor says all is good and ready to meet the world..... do it now - don't chance it...be there.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:44 PM
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right now her hormones is ragin cause her body's outta whack. it's in a woman's nature to worry bout the small stuff when she's pregnant. far as puttin her in scheduled labor, that just might be the death of you. if she goes and it lasts more than a few minutes, she gonna kill your ass for lettin em do it let the baby come when ready and trust me, when that baby gets ready to come out, EVERYBODY will know bout it just calm down, take a deep breath and i'll drink some beer for you.


My wife was induced for 3 out of 4 (with no pain drugs either)
Yeah - she said it was like one loooooooooong contraction versus how the natural one went.

 
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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:48 PM
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My wife was induced for 3 out of 4 (with no pain drugs either)
Yeah - she said it was like one loooooooooong contraction versus how the natural one went.


This is great advice Jim. I knew this but I guess just didn't want to hear it. This is why Darcie doesn't want to be induced. She was in labor for five hours with Myles with only a partial epidural & she went naturally. So I know that if she goes naturally again it will be for the best.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 12:51 PM
heh heh...the nesting stage ...
I like the advice Benjamin had.
Man this is a miracle happening ... enjoy it....hope all goes smooth in delivery.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 01:48 PM
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So Darcie isn't due for another two weeks- August 11th. I honestly have this feeling that the baby is coming today! But here are my concerns:

1) Concern: Do you think the baby is within days of arriving? Ladies?


No, it is when her tummy drops down, that it is t-minus 7 days. This is nesting instinct and high anxiety. Reassure her that baby is alright. When she starts waking up at feeding times, or staying up half the night, up before the dawn, dry runs for feeding, baby is nigh.

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2) Our obstetricians's office has a bunch of great doctors. But Darice is irritated by this mid-wife who may be on call when the baby comes. I know if she is the one that is working when Darcie finally goes there are going to be major problems. Concern: Should I talk her in to a scheudled labor & if so do you think the doc's will do it now before the due date? They told us yesterday that the baby is pretty much done developing. She is just hanging out growing before coming out.


Well, it might work out to be sort of a plus to have someone present she may prefer to choke to death in the throws of blinding agony instead of you. Shove a watermelon through a soda straw, and find your breaking point.

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I wasn't around when my son was born because I was in military training across the country. So this is new to me & I am a little stressed out. I think Darcie & I are both losing our minds- just in different ways.


Forgive yourself. He's fine. She's fine. The new baby is fine. It's you we're worried about.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 01:51 PM
Relax and enjoy the pre-birth drama! Being present at your child's birth is an incredible miracle, so enjoy it and treasure the moment.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 02:00 PM
Let me echo the Relax chorus, if you can.

First off it's the 'nesting' syndrome that is kicking in with your wife. Go with the flow.

Second, having been thorough an induced labor with my wife....man it is a nightmare. Of course everyone is different. We sat and waited and waited until they were ready to send me home and then things started to happen.

Enjoy the insanity, its just the beginning....

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 02:19 PM
On a side note, my Mom had my little brother the morning after a Gregg Allman show. Secutiry made us all stand way in the back behind the sound engineer. She was 2 1/2 weeks overdue, worried about having induced labor if he didn't decide to come out on his own. Who knows, maybe it coaxed him out some but security seemed to know something we didn't. That man was a nervous wreck.
 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 03:31 PM
First of all, take a deep breath! Hold it! Hold it! Now, slowly let it out. RELAX!!

When I was pregnant, I did the same thing. I was a nesting hen. I swear! I cleaned EVERYTHING whether it needed it or not. I even did some sewing. People, I'm NOT a homebody at all!! I don't sew, usually. I was like flippin' Martha Stewart. YUCK! Anyway, just let things happen naturally. If she doesn't like the midwife, then she needs to voice that to the staff. Seriously. There's no reason why she should put up with anything or anyone that's gonna make the experience difficult. OK? OK!! Much luck to you and yours!

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 03:44 PM
...my wife is still apologizing to me about her pregnancy 2 1/2 years ago...she was a raving loon...I spent most of my time out in the yard just to avoid the barrage of hormones...
...that being said, it's all good...as everyone else has mentioned, just relax...it will all work itself out...

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 03:51 PM
get the boombox & put on FE when she starts to deliver. that way the papoose will have a rockin good time comin out

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 04:31 PM
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get the boombox & put on FE when she starts to deliver. that way the papoose will have a rockin good time comin out


RIGHT ON!!

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 05:13 PM
Amen Renee! Although that will give Darcie a reason to yell at me! As if I don't listen to enough ABB! It would be great for Ellie to hear that coming in to this world!

The thing is she knows it's her hormones because she owns up to it. I guess that's why I keep coming back for more!

I don't know how to deal with the midwife problem. If she is in the rotation for being on call then it is luck of the draw. Myles was born at Wright Patterson Air Force Base & it was required that a doctor be present for the delivery. And there were only about ten nurses to assist. This is completely different & very different insurance. One of the reasons I was pressed to get back in to the Coast Guard so quickly was so that we could use that incredible health coverage. Unfortunately I will not be back in in time to use it for the delivery. That means we are subjected to the sub par standard everyone else is probably used to dealing with. I think that perception has been a recipe for disaster with our situation. I'm just glad I will be around to make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 05:22 PM
The main suggesstion I have for you is this, do not, under any circumstances offer your hand to her during labor and say "If it hurts, squeeze my hand."
The pinky on my left hand still curves outward at the first joint 29 years later.

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 05:37 PM
HI, I am Axeman's wife. Your posting got me on here for the first time because I am due Aug 24th and am so uncomfortable, never been a cleaner but it is starting to happen a bit. Couldn't sleep two nights ago and my husband came to check on me and I was cleaning out the fridge.

PLEASE keep us posted as to Darcie's progress. Since this is our first we don't really have much advice but I would call the Dr and ask if there are any other Dr's on call when the midwife is, and explain your wife's concern. I have started having some contractions and also think that this baby is coming early and constantly ask about my Dr's August vacation schedule as I am sure there will be many vacations planned considering we live in HOT-lanta, so I too am very nervous. Good luck and keep us posted as we are right behind you!! Cheers...

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 05:53 PM
Hi Mr & Mrs Axeman, Congratulations to you both & good luck!

I think I was just having a little anxiety attack earlier when I started this thread. I find comfort here among friends & know that I can get some perspective when I need it.

Dacrie's due date is August 11th. I think my feeling that baby Ellie (Helen Emory), or as my three year old Myles has named her, baby Butter, coming early is honestly more want than reality.

I think partially from being tired a lot lately & trying to accomodate Darcie & her still busy work schedule I am just worn out.

Thanks for listening y'all!

[Edited on 7/19/2006 by slowhand6]

 

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  posted on 7/19/2006 at 06:25 PM
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Let me echo the Relax chorus, if you can.


Enjoy the insanity, its just the beginning....


Not even scratching the surface.

 

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  posted on 7/20/2006 at 06:04 AM
"Dialated to Meet You" by Loudon Wainwright III.....the tradition we had for our 4 kids was to play that right before we left for the hospital....

Yesterday and the day before, my wife was feeling nauseous in the morning...OH NO!!
Theoretically though, it's not possible that we're having a fifth...

Since my wife has been known to deliver a baby or two herself (not really that many in the ER though) she got better than average attention in the hospital....in fact I caught her and the doc discussing patients in between contractions (in front of me - I thought about busting them on a patient confidentiality ethics charge - ha!)
We even had a pizza party after one of the kids was born...put on by the ER staff...

Enough about us....

All the folks expecting soon....it's the most exciting time you'll ever have.
And don't forget...sleep now, you won't be later!

 
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  posted on 7/20/2006 at 07:09 AM
Sleep hasn't been so good lately. But I know rougher waters are ahead. I had Darcie read all of your posts last night. She wants to put something on here probably this evening. She mostly laughed rwhile reading, especially at Reneed's posts. Thanks again. This has been a good way for her & I talk about some things that have been on both of our minds. Peace~!

 

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