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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 03:52 PM
I write this post with a very heavy heart as I slowly watch my beautiful wife Lisa die from cancer. Many of you know my story as sometime ago I posted a thank you for all of the gratitude displayed on this website and gave a brief description of our plight. It mirrors many a tragedy experienced within our internet family. My wife has battled breast cancer for 5 years, and it has finally attacked her brain. Her time has always been limited but this latest diagnosis has shattered whatever hope remained. Our bank of emotions has been drained. We have experienced every imaginable feeling and all that remains is fear and despair. I look at my 5 year old son and weep knowing how heavy his heart will be for the rest of his life. I pray that he will not have to watch his Mommy suffer and die in our home but know the reality of that happening is strong. My faith (always shaky at best) has been trampled. How could anyone allow this to happen? Let alone a Supreme Being. What could the purpose be in a 5 year old boy watch his Mommy suffer and die? I have prayed, fought, hoped, trembled, wept, and cursed as I have searched for answers. There are no answers and logic to this process. The most devout Christian will suffer and die. Prayers will and do go unanswered. Hopes will be shattered. Lives are shattered forever. In the midst of all this darkness and despair, I can only see one purpose, message, or reason to this insanity. The only reason we exist on this planet is to love one another. In the end, it is all that matters. We chase things all thru life; money, careers, drugs, sex, When it is all over with, those things don't add up to load of **** . I lie in our bed and wish I had been more patient, more accommodating, less selfish, and less self indulging. In my eyes, my glass was half empty my entire life. In reality, it was over flowing. In the midst of death there is growth. I mourn that it was not earlier in our lives so that my wife could experience more of it. However, I encourage everyone on this board to take inventory of your life and make sure it is grounded in LOVE. Better yet, make sure your actions mirror that foundation. In every aspect of your life, in every relation ship and every activity, lay your burden down and look for ways to ease the burden of others. Nothing groundbreaking in that revelation but it is the only purpose I can extract from this horrendous event. Thanks for all of your support and prayers.They really mean alot.


 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 03:58 PM

. . . . . . Really puts it into perspective . . . . . . we love ya bro . . . . .

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 03:58 PM
No words are appropriate. You and your family are in my thoughts.
 
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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 03:59 PM
So sorry to hear this, and your words I take to heart. Your admonishments sound very familiar to me. As I posted in your other thread, what you are going through has helped strenghten my faith and focus on loving others. As I told somebody else here recently, that may be no consolation to you, but our prayers are with you always. May that peace that passes all understanding find you and hold you close.
 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 04:44 PM
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My faith (always shaky at best) has been trampled. How could anyone allow this to happen? Let alone a Supreme Being. What could the purpose be in a 5 year old boy watch his Mommy suffer and die? I have prayed, fought, hoped, trembled, wept, and cursed as I have searched for answers. There are no answers and logic to this process. The most devout Christian will suffer and die. Prayers will and do go unanswered. Hopes will be shattered. Lives are shattered forever. In the midst of all this darkness and despair, I can only see one purpose, message, or reason to this insanity. The only reason we exist on this planet is to love one another. In the end, it is all that matters.

Buzzy, you asked a profound question and then answered it all in that one paragraph. God is love, plain and simple. It's not always easy to understand, and I won't even take a stab at explaining, because I can't. When you don't know what to pray for, just ask God to wrap you in His arms and let you feel His presence. It's what got me through time and again when my mother passed away.

Buzzy and Lisa, and especially your son, my prayers go out for you.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 05:08 PM
Buzzy, many of us go through things in life that make us look differently at our lives..I know I have...may you stay strong and may your wife feel as good as possible..you have family here man..you are all in my prayers..

[Edited on 6/24/2005 by leftyblues]

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 05:13 PM
Buzzy, I am weeping as I read this. In spite of this tragedy, you have the courage and perspective to look for a life lesson.

You are a FAR, FAR better man than I.

You have the courage of a lion. And the wisdom of a sage.

Thank you for teaching me how to be grateful for what I have.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 05:50 PM
Sorry God is short on Angels. Love & Prayers to you, Lisa and your beautiful little rug rat.
 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 06:24 PM
That is a beautiful post buzzy...

Love to you and your family...

and as lovey would say "Love is all you need"

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 06:25 PM
Much love and peace to you and your family, Buzzy.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 06:33 PM
Buzzy

Theres no answer for the fairness handed to some and their loved ones. The love will always be there. It will be alive in your little boy. God bless your wife, your son and you as you all have a heavy load. I'll pray for your family, for your wife to leave with peace of mind and for healing to come to you and your son. God Bless you all

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 06:45 PM
I am really sorry to hear this Buzzy. Bless you all, may peace come to your heart. I can't imagine.......

Thanks for sharing some very wise words with us during your hardest of times.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 07:01 PM
Buzzy,

I had to walk outside and weep when I read your post. I have some of the same frustrations as to "WHY" as you do.

Will keep your family in my prayers.

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 07:15 PM
My mother died from breast cancer which eventually found her brain. I can only imagine what you(Buzzy82) and your son are going through. Please accept my heart-felt emphathy for your family. I watched everyday by my mother's hospital bed as she died. I know that we all wonder why God would let something happen to you and others. I don't know why. I am not very good at telling people how I feel, but if you would allow me to just share one thought. I do know that there lies a basic instruction on how to lead our lives. I am Christian, and as a Christian I believe that the only thing that matters in life is that you love your neighbor as yourself. You are probably reading this saying "what does this have to do with me?" I will tell you why it is relevant to your wife's situation. I am sure that she is a very kind person who loves her family and others. Therefore soon she will be in a better place. And one day, if you live by the basic instruction, you will be reunited. All of you. I do believe that my mother looks down at me in times of depression and pain. My guardian angel. Keep the faith. Tyler

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 08:08 PM
Prayers go out to Tom, Lisa, and thier son tonight.

Who knows why God challenges us in this way. Maybe to make us all stronger.

We are all here for you Bro.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 08:33 PM
Tom, you and your family are in my prayers. May God give you the strength you seek during this time.

Your family needs you now more than ever to be strong.

We are lost without faith. I pray that you may find your faith and it be restored.

I have seen this family here time and time again come together and offer our thoughts and prayers to our brothers and sisters in times of need.

Peace be with you and know that we are here for you.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 08:36 PM
Tom,

I will light a candle at Mass this weekend for you and your family and keep you in my prayers. Your courage and love are examples to us all. Bless you.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 09:32 PM
Buzzy,

Our prayers and thoughts are with you. If we could only figure out why these thing happen. A 5 yr old will take a few years to comprehend and those that are still standing need to explain to the younger folks why. We can only stab at the answers, reach for a reason, never really knowing why. Our bewilderment will only seem stranger to the younger folk, but we must press on.

Peace to you and your family.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 09:41 PM
While I gently weep...I'm so ,so, so ,sorry for all of your pain. May you find strength and wisdom through the loving eyes of your son. All the best to you, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers
 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 09:42 PM
I wish peace for you & yours
 
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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 09:51 PM
You are so right--love is all that matters.

May you, your wife, and your son find some comfort in the love and support being sent your way here. You will remain in our thoughts.

 

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  posted on 6/24/2005 at 10:40 PM
many prayers coming your way. Blessings on you and your son.

 

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  posted on 6/25/2005 at 12:16 AM

May many prayers and blessings of hope come your way

 

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  posted on 6/25/2005 at 07:00 AM
I'm sorry to hear that about your wife, Buzzy. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

I'm unmarried, 38, and have been searching fror my soulmate for my entire life. I think I have finally found my love. And, if she's it, I'm going to hold on with both hands. I appreciate sincere love, and i know how hard it is to find.

You're right, life's a load of crap w/o love. Thanks for putting that in perspective. Again, my thoughts are with you.

 

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  posted on 6/25/2005 at 08:01 AM
Thinking of your wife, your son, and you, Buzzy.


Why does it seem that there's less and less love around us in this world?

 

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