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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 12:54 PM
My wife ragged me for years about the Allman Brothers - "Those has-beens from the 70's?? Why would you want to see them?"

I spent years trying to get her to go see them - finally, in 1993, she broke down and agreed to go; it was the 5/25/93 show at the Greek Theater in Lala land and was easily the worst ABB show of the 100+ I've seen - yes, even worse than the Lawler years. Here I am thinking she'll never go again but something must have caught her ear because she started going with me every year. At the end of the Pittsburgh show in 1996, she said to me, "I'm never going to like these guys the way you do, but I understand why you love em' so much." Those words made my year.

I was just wondering what others have experienced..........

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 01:09 PM
Poughkeepsie 6/19/01

The wife knew of them before we met, 'tho not really heard anything beyond Ramblin' Man, Statesboro, you know...songs that end up on Greatest hits of the South kinda albums. And the band I played in during the 90's did a few of their songs, so she knew of 'em.

I've had "Evening With ...1st Set" as a driving tape and play it always....she's not into the extended solo thing.
So when there was an opportunity to see them when we were there, she was like, yyyeah...oooookey, I guess....and we went.
She likes loads of their songs...I mean the proper-song-structure-non-20-minute kinda songs. But she thought the show was too long considering all the unnecessary noodling that could've been tunes instead, etc.
I gave her that one, 'cuz after 19 yrs since my last ABB show, I was hoping for other songs...which they played on subsequent dates.

She digs Mule, but not the longerish jazzy things...you know....

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 01:10 PM
My wife has seen her share of ABB shows, but doesn't share my passion about them. Her first show in Chicago in 95 was a great show, but she just didn't get it. An 18 minute Jessica ended the show and as the band was walking off the stage and the crowd was going crazy waiting for the encore, she said jokingly something like "I'll be damned if I'm going to ask for more of this"....heh...the band came back out with a very young Derek Trucks and played Statesboro, Southbound and a 17 minute Whipping Post....she never thought it would end

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 01:26 PM
No.
My Wife does not get it at all.
She wants more singing and less jamming, or music with "more words" as she put it.
Oh well, guess I'll have to go to the shows with my friends and leave my wife at home.
Tough break.
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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 01:31 PM
My wife likes the ABB because it gets me out of the house! (lol!!)

I think Jen's first show with me was in 1991(?) in Nashua NH.
Since then, it's a good year when she goes with me to even one show (this year it was none...)
Jen is more of a dTb and Susan Tedeschi kinda person - those she "gets".....

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 01:33 PM
My wife enjoys the Brothers. She's been to several shows with me over the past few years, but is not going to any Beacon shows with me this year. What she doesn't get is my collection of live show recordings. A common question is, "How many versions of (insert song name here) do you need?" Oh well. I think she likes their older stuff better and she definitely likes studio albums better than show recordings.

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 01:34 PM
Absolutely!

Of my musical obsessions, this one is clearly a favorite of hers. She's been to all but one of the ABB shows I've seen over the years.

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 02:18 PM
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My Wife does not get it at all.
She wants more singing and less jamming, or music with "more words" as she put it.
Oh well, guess I'll have to go to the shows with my friends and leave my wife at home.
Tough break.



Ditto.

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 02:23 PM
i get teased constantly about the ABB. i think he used to like them, but because i'm much more involved with this group of people than any other in the history of our relationship, he is jealous.

i try to tell him not to worry, if i got a shot at gregg or warren i'd be back in a week or so....

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 02:23 PM
OTF...not that getting barfed on is funny... but I am howling.



My wife gets it which is great...she does not share my need to catch every show w/in 250 mile radius but she is "on the bus."

 

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My Wife does not get it at all.
She wants more singing and less jamming, or music with "more words" as she put it.
Oh well, guess I'll have to go to the shows with my friends and leave my wife at home.
Tough break.



Ditto.


Ditto, which is why TopDroog and I get together.....

She also doesn't quite get this "cult" I am a member of....

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 02:48 PM
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My wife went to every show with me for a long time. Then, at the Beacon in 98, we had a rough crowd around us and the kid next to me barfed on my leg.


That was you?

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 02:49 PM
My hubby goes to shows with me, usually 2 a year, but he
doesn't understand this "cult" either.

Also, doesn't get the live shows that we trade.

His loss....

 
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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 02:55 PM
Yes, thank goodness.

We went to the first 20+ shows together, then I finally broke down and went with my cousin b/c I wanted to go to more Beacon shows then her.

Since we had kids a few years ago, she almost only went in the summers with me. We sort of are a bit paranoid for both of us to be in NYC at once post 9-11, mabye we're nuts but we want to make sure one of us will still be here God forbid.

But she loves the ABB, the Mule, Derek, and all the other stuff.

In fact, our first date (6-14-92) was a Dead show at Giants Stadium, and our musical tastes had a lot to do with what brought us together in the first place.

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 03:16 PM
My better half and I are polar opposites on not only the ABB but pretty much musical likes in general. She doesn't mind how much I'm into them and the assorted associated groups though.

As far as trading shows, numerous family members like to jab me with comments such as:

"How many thousands of times have you actually listened to _________ (fill in a song title)?"

"Do you have recordings of every time that song was ever played, or have you missed one?"

"Are any of those geezers still alive?"

Doesn't phase me, still enjoy them after all of these years.

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 03:39 PM
OTF, you handled el puke-a-rama much more smoothly than I would/could have...especially the "suggestion" part.

As to this place, my wife thinks I am officially Gonzo...whenever I present her with some nugget of information gleened here I get the ol' eyebrow raise as in..."you were doing what instead of working..." ha...oops (sorry honey) I did it again...

 

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My Wife does not get it at all.
She wants more singing and less jamming, or music with "more words" as she put it.
Oh well, guess I'll have to go to the shows with my friends and leave my wife at home.
Tough break.
Be safe,
John



Sounds familiar. She's coming with me and 3 other couples in March. Hopefully she'll get it....At least a little.
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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 03:55 PM
My girlfriend didnt "get" them for a while but i bought her hittin the note for christmas and she started to like them.Then i burned her a copy of Fillmore East and she said she likes it more(any true allmans fan would!!)But when i told her i was getting Alanta pop for my birthday she was like "Another damn Allman Brothers cd geez how many do you need?"so i dunno i guess shes got mixed feelings but i think that will change when One way out comes out!!
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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 04:29 PM
My reply to how many times can you hear Whipping Post etc. is it's different everytime !!! I love to hear all the different interpretations of the same song !!! Love Valley and Fillmore East are different and it's great to hear the song evolve !!!!! HOW MANY TIMES, 10.000 AND COUNTING !!
 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 04:45 PM
hey, the trading part is the worst.

i hate the fact that the only time i can sneak in my shows is when i'm at my PC or at work.... and half the time i'm burning so i can't listen.

unless its a dead show. he loves the dead. Oh, and they have to be soundboards too. the crowd noise gets on his nerves.

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 04:57 PM
My wife gets it. We probably wouldn't be as happy as we are if we both didn't get it.
We met at a Grateful Dead show, and good music has always been a major part of our lives. My wife and I have a standing rule that if only one of us can make a show(any good music) they have to go and have fun for both of us. Luckily, that hasn't happened too often: the last show I went to without her was DTB in Blacksburg. But we both got to see him a few days later at HOB in Myrtle Beach and take our kids, who were thrilled when Derek signed their tickets. He seemed to get a kick out of seeing the next generation of fans.

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 05:06 PM
No. Kay does not get it.
She has been to about 30 shows with me.
She does not listen to it unless in auto with me or her best friend Nancy.
Nancy is Don's wife. They get it. We have been going to see them since the 70's.
Kay and I since 95. We saw Greeg a few times before that.

As far as my collection. She thinks that is nuts.
"How many Mountain Jams do you need?"

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 05:07 PM
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Does your spouse/significant other "get" the ABB??


Mwahahahahahahaha!!!!

In a word... No.

(But we agree to disagree!)

 
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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 05:10 PM
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People who feel that the songs "need more words" or whatever will never get the band because they tune out during the solos. It isn't so much that they don't get it, it is just that they are in tune with the vocalist. Many people on this web site are musicians who can identify with the musicians in the band and the music that they make. Many non-musicians cannot get past the vocals because that is all they can reproduce on their own.
Just my .02.


I was thinking that for some people the sheer size of the band and number of things going on simultaneously can be difficult to process - for my wife, it was the opposite. She told me that she could hear everything - she would say that when they really got "wound up," it was too "whirly-twirly (fast to the average person)" for her.....

 

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  posted on 2/4/2004 at 05:13 PM
When Tina and I first started chatting (yes, we met on the 'Net), one of the favorite activities in the couple of chatrooms we frequented was the trading various smallish .wav files. One day she sent me one called Allman.wav. It was a good portion of Duane's solo from Stormy Monday. She had no idea what piece of music it was from, that it was the Allman Brothers (although she knew a little of their music and enjoyed it), or that I was a huge fan. She just knew she really liked what she heard and thought that I might also. Little did she know! I immediately began educating her with as much as I knew at the time, and three months later she surprised me with the Dreams box set for my birthday. When we finally moved in together about 15 months later, our first trip together was to see the ABB at Red Rocks in '98.
Some sort of history was made that evening.

 

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