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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 08:56 AM
Last Friday morning at about 11:30 my mom took her last breath.

It was about as beautiful a moment as something like this could be. She'd been on home Hospice care for most of the last several months. I held her hand, and dialed my sister, Cathy on the cell - held it to mom's ear. Seems like she was just wating to hear from Cathy. No gasps for breath, no outward signs of struggle of any kind. Just a last draw of breath and then she stopped.

For those of y'all who know me - you know what a year this has been. Donna and I are still putting the final touches on repairs to our home - courtesy of the April 27 storms that wrecked a good bit of Alabama. Then there is my sister Cathy's own struggles with cancer. The reason that she wasn't with me at mom's side is because she is very late in her own battle and can't travel.

If you've been keeping score you know that in the past 5 years I've also lost a brother and a sister. Cathy and I are all that remains from our immediate family.

My mom had been sick for quite a while. I really thought I was prepared for her passing. A wise man once told me that even when you see the train coming for a thousand miles - it still hurts when it hits ya. I feel a void in my soul.

But all the other addages and trusims apply. A better place, for sure. That's where mama is this morning. Please say hello to Butch, Wanda and daddy for me mom. We'll meet on that beautiful shore - you can bank on it!

If you're near Birmingham and if you're interested - a memorial service will be held for my mom on Saturday, December 3 at 2:00 at the Ridouts Chapel in Homewood.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 09:04 AM
I am sorry Rusty. I know you have been dealing with this for awhile, but I can only imagine your hurt right now. She was good to you until the end, especially that well-timed phonecall prior to the tornado. All the best to you friend.
 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 09:07 AM
Have my sympathy.
No, we don't know each other, anyone who has lost a parent, anyone friend or family, can understand your feelings.
Posting things like this on a mb is kind of freeing. People do not know each, but you never know how letting your thoughts and what happend be known, how someone else in the same situation can be helped by a post.

[Edited on 11/21/2011 by SGirl]

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 09:08 AM
Tears are welling in my eyes as I read this, Rusty. I'm sorry for your loss. I know how hard that must have been for you, having been down that road myself nearly 8 years ago. Always remember this - love never dies. Peace and love to you, Donna and Cathy (also my sister's name.) I feel you, bro.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 09:14 AM
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Have my sympathy.
No, we don't know each other, anyone who has lost a parent, anyone friend or family, can understand your feelings.
Posting things like this on a mb is kind of freeing. People do not know each, but you never know how letting your thoughts and what happend be known, how someone else in the same situation can be hlepd by a post.
SGirl, you'd be surprised how many of us know each other in the "real world." There are friendships formed here that are as real as they can be, even when we only see each other at the occasional show and fan gathering. We call these folks we know and love from this website "famABBly." Rusty and his wife Donna are a part of my famABBly, as are many others here. We share our triumphs as well as our troubles. It's just what we do, and it seems so natural.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 09:15 AM
God bless your mama, may she rest in peace.
My condolences on your loss. Continue to stay strong.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 09:24 AM
Rusty . I just read your post. I don't know you other than by reading your posts over the years. I had an idea what your last post was about before I read it. I feel your pain. I lost my folks and sister too. My older sister and I are all that's left of our immediate family. I'm sure you know that you never get over losing loved ones but it get's a LITTLE less painful as time passes . Here's to a restful Thanksgiving and I hope your spirits are lifted soon.Russ
 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 09:35 AM
So sorry to hear about your Mom, Rusty. I lost my Dad last month and was blessed to be there holding his hand when he took that last breath. Bittersweet ... heartbreaking but at the same time comforting to know that THEY left this world knowing they were loved and feeling that love surround them.

Thoughts and prayers going out to you and Donna and Cathy - may you find comfort and strength in your love for each other, in the love for your Mother, and sweet memories of your time with her here. And I'm including some extra healing prayers for your sister. Godspeed, Rusty's Mom ... rest peacefully.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 10:12 AM
So sorry to hear about your loss, Rusty. I understand your pain and loss. Not a day goes by that I don't think of my Mom and how much I miss her and she passed long ago.

Sounds like she had all the love you could give her which I am sure helped her journey.

Prayers for your Mom and the loved ones who will miss her.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 10:14 AM
I am sorry for your loss Rusty. I hope you and Donna find peace in her passing, knowing that she is with her maker and family.

As you have always done for me during hard times, don't be afraid to let me know if you want to talk.

Peace

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 10:24 AM
Rusty your mom and your family will be in our thoughts....

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 10:34 AM
My deep and heartfelt condolences to you and family..

My Aunt ( my Mom's younger sister ) passed last Sunday.. She had a stroke in Aug at the age of 75.. it was a very bad stroke and she really never recovered , she just deteriorated day after day.. It was difficult to see and know they are in pain, she could not speak.. just moan.. it shook me to my soul... someone told me , because they saw I was sad that being born is painful and dying is painful for most .. it is a journey to life and leaving life.. it made such an impression on me.. I guess we struggle to get born and as we leave here and go to the unknown next place , it is a different kind of struggle.. I can only hope they are all at peace and with people they love and are waiting to see us all again..

We had a memorial for my Aunt on Sat.. and it was a celebration of her life.

On the brighter side of this.. My Mom also had a stroke in April , she is 83 and Thankfully she is recovered.. I hardly can tell she even had a stroke... Keep your loved ones , family and friends , especially the older ones watched closely as they sometimes forget their med's which can lead to untimely consequences.

Peace , Love and comfort to you Rusty and Donna...

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:04 AM
Rusty, my heart is broken. I know you knew it was coming, but it's so final when it does happen. My heart aches for you.

When your name comes to mind, it makes me happy inside. Because we always have a happy time when we see each other. So many times over the years now. Since the airplane ride in 2003. But I know you live in the real world, and the kind of joy we have shared is often the exception, the escape from the mundane, and the dark. And Lord knows, you've had your share of dark and then some over the last several years. Being the rock while so much of your family has struggled with sickness, death. Plus the devastation brought to your world by the storms. You must be one tough soul by now.
My prayer for you is for strength, to bear up under it all.

I remember you telling me of your Mom calling just before the storm hit in April, waking Donna just before a tree crashed through your bedroom, likely saving her life. An incredible final gift from your Mom, surely a special memory always. May she rest in peace.

 
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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:18 AM
My sincere condolences to you and family.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:29 AM
I am so sorry Rusty. Moms are special people, always there for you in joy and pain in your life. She still will be with you, you will always feel her warmth in you. Prayers for you and Donna and your sister Cathy.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:31 AM
You were a good son to your mother. Prayers for you and Donna during this sad time.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:32 AM
God bless your Mom Rusty. may she sing with angels.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:35 AM
Much love to my friends Rusty and Donna.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:43 AM
Rusty, I am so very sorry for your loss. My love and prayers to you and Donna. May your mama rest in peace. She raised a fine son. Hugs, sweetie.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 11:50 AM
No BigDave, I did not know that.
Even moreso, more people you know, friends with, more comfort, understanding, and sharing. That is good for Rusty and his family.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 12:26 PM
Rusty, Donna and Cathy............i am sending SO much love, strength and prayers your way to hold you up during this hard time. I am so glad you were all able to be with your mom at the end, even if by phone She knows how much she was, and is, loved and was there for you when you needed her as well.
Hoping you are able to be together in peace while dealing with the new strange void that us left after losing a parent. RIP to your Mother........i love you guys and miss you!

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 12:38 PM
Rusty, my thoughts are with you and your family, especially your sister not being able to be there.

That little story about the train is so true. I will likely use that one myself in the future.

Be strong and hang in there.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 01:23 PM
Cried my eyes out reading your beautiful story. Peace, love and comfort to you and your family.

 

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  posted on 11/21/2011 at 01:49 PM
Rusty and Donna...

Prayers for your peace and understanding during this difficult time.....

And as far as Rusty and Donna go, you will not meet two better people.

 

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