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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 10:52 AM
One of my next door neighbors shared this with me yesterday.

He has a friend who committed suicide yesterday. They have 4 small children. Here is how he did it....

He was sitting in the living room watching TV with his wife. He had a gun hidden. He spoke to his wife and said "Honey, watch this". When she looked he put the gun to his head and pulled the trigger.

God have mercy.

Those of you who pray, join me in praying for the Neil family.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:03 AM
Oh Dear God...Prayers to the family... peace to the troubled soul...

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:09 AM
talk about eff'd up.

what he did to that woman was just mean

very sorry to hear this

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:15 AM
Oh, this is heartbreaking, and nearly the exact same thing that happened almost 4 years ago to the day to my ex-sister-in-law. Her fiance called her in to the bathroom and said the same thing.

The tragedy is that a soul could be in such pain to need to take their life to stop the madness....yet the madness is so great, that they try to drag a loved one into that dark place, which is the ultimate act of selfishness. On the other hand, we were grateful that he did not take her life along with his. It takes time to come to terms with the fact that the person who committed suicide is finally at peace.

It is a horrific thing to deal with and try to come to terms with. To close your eyes as tight as you can to stop re-playing the devestating scene. What helped Jo was she immediately joined a suicide support group and got very active. I have participated in many of their walks to raise awaerness.

This is their website if you would like to pass it on:

http://www.outofthedarkness.org/

Also, I am sure my friend would be more than willing to speak to the loved ones if needed.

Please know that these people are in my prayers.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:15 AM
I can't even begin to imagine the suffering that man had to go through to get to that point, let alone what's in store for the family.... Prayers for his soul and that they have a great support group and plenty of therapy going forward
 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:20 AM
What a sad story. The same kind of thing happened to a friend years ago. He was invited to a friends house for dinner,and while everyone was sitting at the table,the father pulled out a gun and killed himself.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:24 AM
I just do not understand the shock factor of doing this act with an audience.
I fell terrible for the wife and children

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:26 AM
I guess I can understand how mental illness and depression can lead to suicide but not that. What a terrible thing.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:30 AM
I can't imagine the depth one would have to fall to commit suicide leaving four children behind. My prayers go out to the family.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:30 AM
I had a neighbor about thirty years ago who killed herself in the very place her children would find her when they walked in from school. My heart goes out to the family of the man who killed himself in front of his wife and my prayers for them to heal and that he'll find peace in the next world, but truth be told, in this life he did one of the most selfish and vindictive acts anyone can do.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:41 AM
Tragically very sad, just terrible for the family........
 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:44 AM
This is tragic. Thoughts and prayers going out to the Neil family ... may they find peace and strength as they rebuild their lives. An act of suicide by someone you love is something that haunts you forever ... they have a hard road ahead. And DorothyAnn is right - a suicide support group in invaluable in the recovery of those left to deal. I can't imagine how hard this is for the wife/mother here or anybody who has this additional pain of having been witness to the deed ... it's heartbreaking to imagine that image living in anybody's mind.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:49 AM
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This is tragic. Thoughts and prayers going out to the Neil family ... may they find peace and strength as they rebuild their lives. An act of suicide by someone you love is something that haunts you forever ... they have a hard road ahead. And DorothyAnn is right - a suicide support group in invaluable in the recovery of those left to deal. I can't imagine how hard this is for the wife/mother here or anybody who has this additional pain of having been witness to the deed ... it's heartbreaking to imagine that image living in anybody's mind.


Well said Deb. Prayers going out to the Neil Family. His wife will need strong support
after witnessing this tragedy.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:51 AM
Very tragic. Sorry for the family.

My uncle killed himself sitting in his chair in the living room, where my aunt had to find him and have that memory in her house. I don't understand it.

I also knew an old man at my church who killed himself, but he went out to the garage and put a pillow over his head before he shot himself. His wife said he did that so she wouldn't have a mess. He was in a lot of pain.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 11:57 AM
OMG..that is horrible

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 12:06 PM
O M G !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 12:14 PM
OMG! I got chills reading that. Prayers and good vibes being sent. Unspeakably horrible.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 01:41 PM
For those of you that want to simply state how selfish suicide is you need to take a little more time to think about how bad someone must be hurting for them to rationalize that ending their life is the only way to make things better, not only for themselves but for those around them. It is an extermely sad situation for the person who is living w/ all the sadness and for the family and friends that find themselves left behind, missing their loved one and then are left to wonder why they couldn't help them.

By no means do I think it is the right answer, particularly in this case leaving a wife and 4 kids, and further shooting yourself in front of your wife, which is about the most ridiculous thing I have heard but I bet the guy who did it thought he was making things better for his family by him not being around.

My cousin Trevor killed himself a year and a half ago. He was a heck of a guy...about as normal as you could be, had a good job, girlfriend, great family, played drums in a fairly popular band since college, funny, generous, outdoorsman, with a ton of friends. Unfortunately he apparently struggled with depression, something most of us didn't know, those that did weren't aware of the depths of which he struggled. He lived in Minnesota and drove himself out to California to camp among the Redwoods..."god's country" as he would say. He had missed a family engagement while heading out west so he phoned his girlfriend to tell her he loved her and say goodbye, she didn't know his plans but by this point everyone was very concerned and she had an idea that they might not be speaking again. My aunt and uncle found a note at his house explaining how sorry he was and how much he loved everyone and how much he would miss everyone. It went on to say that his sadness was overwhelming and that he just couldn't take it anymore. After camping for a few days (the park ranger confirmed this), and I hope finding some peace in one of his favorite places, Trevor took his life. I have not for one day thought that Trevor is selfish, he wasn't while he was alive and this act doesn't make him now. I miss him and I am sad I will never see him again on this earth. It breaks my heart for his immediate family and close friends, but by no means are any of this people angry at him.

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 01:45 PM
My prayers for his wife and kids.
 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 01:49 PM

so sad to hear that!

 

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For those of you that want to simply state how selfish suicide is you need to take a little more time to think about how bad someone must be hurting for them to rationalize that ending their life is the only way to make things better, not only for themselves but for those around them. It is an extermely sad situation for the person who is living w/ all the sadness and for the family and friends that find themselves left behind, missing their loved one and then are left to wonder why they couldn't help them.

By no means do I think it is the right answer, particularly in this case leaving a wife and 4 kids, and further shooting yourself in front of your wife, which is about the most ridiculous thing I have heard but I bet the guy who did it thought he was making things better for his family by him not being around.

My cousin Trevor killed himself a year and a half ago. He was a heck of a guy...about as normal as you could be, had a good job, girlfriend, great family, played drums in a fairly popular band since college, funny, generous, outdoorsman, with a ton of friends. Unfortunately he apparently struggled with depression, something most of us didn't know, those that did weren't aware of the depths of which he struggled. He lived in Minnesota and drove himself out to California to camp among the Redwoods..."god's country" as he would say. He had missed a family engagement while heading out west so he phoned his girlfriend to tell her he loved her and say goodbye, she didn't know his plans but by this point everyone was very concerned and she had an idea that they might not be speaking again. My aunt and uncle found a note at his house explaining how sorry he was and how much he loved everyone and how much he would miss everyone. It went on to say that his sadness was overwhelming and that he just couldn't take it anymore. After camping for a few days (the park ranger confirmed this), and I hope finding some peace in one of his favorite places, Trevor took his life. I have not for one day thought that Trevor is selfish, he wasn't while he was alive and this act doesn't make him now. I miss him and I am sad I will never see him again on this earth. It breaks my heart for his immediate family and close friends, but by no means are any of this people angry at him.

Ryan


Thanks Ryan.

I was thinking of a response myself to the "selfish" part.

In the last two years, I've known 4 people who killed themselves.
From money issues, problems with the law, health, or depression.

I could've chalked it up to selfish, but in each case there were deeper issues.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 02:11 PM
This has to be the saddest post I've read in 13 years on on this site. I hope his family can regroup in some manner and wish them peace.

Ryan, you made some good points about not knowing when someone is mentally ill enough to commit suicide. The description of your cousin could have been written about our friend Kevin who took his own life in 2003. A very well liked guy who it turned out had suffered from serious depression all his life and we only found out about his illness from his sister after he did it. She took a group of us aside after his funeral to clue us in when it was obvious none of us could figure out WHY ?

The church pews were full at his service but he thought he had no friends and the loneliness ate him up...

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 02:29 PM
God have mercy. My prayers to all families effected by these tragedies.
 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 02:31 PM
That is a pretty cruel and selfish way to take himself out. That poor woman has to live with that image in her head for the rest of her life! Prayers to her and her children!

 

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  posted on 3/26/2010 at 02:46 PM
that is messed up

 

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