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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 11:37 AM
Two years ago today, My father passed away, and like Lefty, I wanted to express my gratitude and appreciation for the love and support that made the sadness bearable.
The phrase good vibes can seem trite, but it has meaning when the feelings are heartfelt. And the healing was only strngthened when we attended Wanee to get hugs in person to match al the virtual one we got in February.

Below is a statement my father wrote near then end of his life to be read at his memorial service. Unfortunatly, it was not read aloud, but was included in the bulletin. I thought I'd share it again with you, as well as couple of stories I shared at the time that help give you an idea of the man I was fortunate to know and love.

From 2/23/08:
My dad Jim was an incredible fellow. He was a great jazz pianist, and inspired me and my brothers to take up music. When I took up the trombone in 6th grade, he was the first cat I ever jammed with. He exposed me to the great big band and jazz artists, and took me to my first big(arena) concert - Frank Sinatra. We also managed to see Ella Fitzgerald, Benny Goodman, and Count Basie.

He really had no use for rock & roll; he figured music took a downward turn in 1950 or so. Nevertheless, on the night Jerry Garcia died, he had rushed home early from vacation - and gave my weeping Maggie a big hug. He said, "Oh honey, I know how you feel. I felt this way when Glen Miller died." What a heart that man had. And when I described watching Ron Holloway trading licks with Derek, Warren, and Oteil, he got it; he knew what jamming was, even if it wasn't in his style.

Dad never met a stranger in his life. He'd find something in common with almost everybody he encountered, between his service in the Navy(WWII) and the Air Force, his love of music, trains, and joy for living in general. He had dozens of stories ranging from touching to outrageous. Maggie said he could talk the horns off a billy goat! He loved my Maggie like a daughter. He often referred to her as his daughter. I think he liked her better than me; she said it's because he didn't know her as a teenager!


His life lesson left to us:


A Statement Of My Faith and My Life

I have been blessed with many riches all my life. I was given the sense of sight to behold a rainbow, to see the delicate beauty of a butterfly's wing. I was given the sense of hearing to enjoy a brilliant symphony, children's laughter, the multiple notes of a mocking bird. I was given the sense of smell to take delight in flowers, a bunch of honeysuckles, the air over a dusty road after a rain shower. I was given the sense of taste to appreciate the efforts of my mother's cooking, a ripe peach, plucked from a tree. I was given the sense of touch that thrilled me when I was hugged by my wife, our sons, or our grandchildren. I was given the ability of reasoning, although I frequently used it unwisely. I had the caring and concern of teachers that opened to me the grandeur of language, the wonder of literature, the skill and understanding of music.

My Life's companion showed me that the romance of movies and novels could be a real and thrilling experience. We have shared so many wonderful adventures, so many happy moments. Together, we formed a family that produced four wonderful sons.

Early in my life I became aware of the love of the Creator of the universe, and began to question the absoluteness of my religious training. I could not conceive a Creator who would exclude anyone from It's love even if that person had rejected the faith I was taught from childhood. I believe there is one Creator with many names, providing the need of faith to many people in many forms. To me, religion is a search for truth, a search that occupied me all my life, without complete resolution. But I always felt the absolute truth, if ever known, had to be co-joined with love.

I was privileged to serve my country in the Navy and the Air Force. Through the G.I. Bill, I went to college, something that was an impossibility when I graduated from high school. I have realized a dream of being involved in science, I played music for monetary reward and for personal satisfaction. I have had the pleasure of writing stories, a few of which were published, and I have authored or co-authored reports in scientific journals. I have never envied anyone their life, for I believe I had the best.

Guiding me, helping me, advising me and teaching me have been some of the most wonderful friends a person could have. I have met, served with, worked with so many people I greatly respected. I have taught the most charmimg and delightful students any teacher could ask for.

I have often said of people who lived lives of service, those of great humor, those that lived true lives of love and caring: that the world was a better place because they trod the earth. If such tributes are made about me after I die, I will have had a successfull life,

To my wife I leave my love, which can surely survive temporal life. To my children and their wives who filled the vacuum of having no daughters and my grandchildren, I leave the responsibility to care for and enjoy this good earth. To the Church and all other religions, I leave my hope and concern as that their search for truth and justice will prevail. And to all of them and to my many wonderful friends, I leave my thanks that they helped fill my life with great joy and happiness.

Jim Hancock



If you love someone, tell them today and every day. I'm lucky that way: my last words spoken to my father were"I love you Dad". And the last thing he ever said to me was "I love you too, son".
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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 11:44 AM
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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 12:28 PM
Very Very nice. There is a whole lot of love on this site. We feel it everyday!! I know the feeling, its been just over a year since our father passed away. I think about Dad every single day. At first you feel they are in a better place, but after awhile you really start to miss him. Especially during the family get togethers. Thinking about you bro, good thoughts and vibes being sent your way Brother.

 

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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 12:36 PM
Thinking about you, Maggie and the children today....

 

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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 12:59 PM
keeping you in my thoughts Henry..

 

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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 01:04 PM
(((((((Henry))))))))))) What a beautiful tribute to your Dad. It sounds like he was a truly special man who was so full of love, acceptance and joy........thank you so much for sharing this with us! You had an amazing role model and it shows! HUGGING YOU on this hard anniversary.......

 

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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 01:45 PM
Keeping you and your family in thoughts, Henry, and thanks for sharing your wonderful father with us here. Your post filled my heart as it demonstrates so well how an individual can achieve greatness in the quietest of ways. Your father sounds like he was a remarkable man ... how wonderful to have that legacy guiding you through life.

[Edited on 2/23/2010 by lolasdeb]

 

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  posted on 2/23/2010 at 02:35 PM
you were very blessed to have the Dad & Father that you did what a wonderful tribute & expression of love, respect & true human compassion!

 

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