Thread: What does your SO think about HTW?

dancingrhonda - 5/8/2008 at 02:33 PM

Does your Significant Other also visit this site? What do they think about you coming here? Do they think you spend too much time here? Are they as involved in music and the scene surrounding as much are you?

[Edited on 5/8/2008 by dancingrhonda]


BigDaveOnBass - 5/8/2008 at 02:41 PM

My wife doesn't get into music like I do. She listens to country. I don't think she reads off of the site. She probably does think I spend too much time here, but she doesn't say anything when I go to Wanee or JFD or ATL or Charlotte for shows. I told her last year that Beacon was probably a one time thing for me. That may or may not be. I'm definitely want to go next year as it's ABB's 40th anniversary tour. I just KNOW they'll have a show on March 26, which is the famous date of the Jacksonville jam. That'd be the show I'd want to do.

She has things she likes to do for and by herself. This is my thing. I'm OK with it.


fabbybear - 5/8/2008 at 02:48 PM

My wife is not into music a much as I am and she thinks I spend too much time on this site. She is not a big camper so therefore she does not come to Wanee. see you all at Wanee next year!


DanB - 5/8/2008 at 03:35 PM

My SO, Donna, has a variety of bands she likes from her favorite Springsteen, Radiohead, Miles, NIN, Ella but she is not into music like I am. She doesn't like the ABB due to having heard it so much over the years. She doesn't understand the Liz Reed is "brand new" every time I play it.

She does think I waste to much time on here.


TopDroog - 5/8/2008 at 03:43 PM

My wife doesn't really have any problems with it or the time I spend here. My boss, on the other hand . . .


No1ToRunWith - 5/8/2008 at 03:45 PM

My ex hated that I came on here. But now it is ok for her to spend close to $250.00 on dating sites and deny her kids. They sit in a corner and wait for mommy to play with them!


TopDroog - 5/8/2008 at 03:47 PM

However, the one or two times she has complained about me spending time on the internet, I said, "for 35 years, my father would go to work, work his 8-hour shift, and would then stop at a local bar for 1-3 hours to drink and hang out with his friends before coming home."

"This is what I do instead of that." That usually shuts her up.


BigDaveOnBass - 5/8/2008 at 03:47 PM

quote:
My ex hated that I came on here. But now it is ok for her to spend close to $250.00 on dating sites and deny her kids. They sit in a corner and wait for mommy to play with them!
Document everything she does wrong and then file for full custody.



Sorry Eric. I get riled over this stuff.


rottinpeach - 5/8/2008 at 03:49 PM

She seems to enjoy, she doesn't post much but she feels that she has met some very nice people off of here. I may get a roll of the eyes every once in a while, but that would be the timing of getting on the computer. Overall, she is behind it all. She loves going to the shows too.


saul256 - 5/8/2008 at 03:52 PM

My wife doesn't get music as much as I do, but she gets a kick out of it that I enjoy it and get caught up in it.


No1ToRunWith - 5/8/2008 at 03:58 PM

quote:
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My ex hated that I came on here. But now it is ok for her to spend close to $250.00 on dating sites and deny her kids. They sit in a corner and wait for mommy to play with them!
Document everything she does wrong and then file for full custody.



Sorry Eric. I get riled over this stuff.


Thanks Dave not to get off topic but here in Mass it is impossible for me to get custody without paying close to 50 grand. And that would take close to two years and it may not happen


Haisija - 5/8/2008 at 04:02 PM

She's somebody elses SO now...
She sat between me and her hubby at the last ABB show in KC.
Also they are picking me up from the airport Sat morning in KC to go to my son's college graduation ceremony.
After that I wonder....are we still a disfunctional family or is it all completed.


Mitch - 5/8/2008 at 04:09 PM

After being "concerned" about the amount of time I spent online here,my wife finally came to a few shows, and started to meet GBers, especially at the Beacon pre show parties. She now enjoys the music and extended family almost as much as me. Sometimes she comes with me to shows and events, and sometimes she doesn't. She is okay with it. I guess I'm a lucky guy! (in so many ways!)

Mitch


dadof2 - 5/8/2008 at 04:18 PM

my wife loves music & finds the stuff i tell her about the site amusing--she really likes the people we've met alot & is naturally comfortable with music freaks--we kinda met because of & at a music event many moons ago...it's still one of the ties that bind us


Guyute - 5/8/2008 at 04:19 PM

Everybody from here likes my wife more than they like me.

I'm not sure, but at this point I hope she still likes me more than she likes all of them.


das814 - 5/8/2008 at 04:23 PM

A slightly modified version of TopDroog's alcohol related response is my answer for any and all music purchasing/trading/concert going/reading/internet searching/etc.

Sometimes it works, somethimes it doesn't, we always get through it.


dadof2 - 5/8/2008 at 04:25 PM

i like ya,Guyute...but,i understand what you're saying lol


Lana - 5/8/2008 at 04:25 PM

Hey there sweet family,

My husband ... oh, wait, you already know

Take care and know that you are loved,

Lana


rottinpeach - 5/8/2008 at 04:27 PM

quote:
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My ex hated that I came on here. But now it is ok for her to spend close to $250.00 on dating sites and deny her kids. They sit in a corner and wait for mommy to play with them!
Document everything she does wrong and then file for full custody.



Sorry Eric. I get riled over this stuff.


Thanks Dave not to get off topic but here in Mass it is impossible for me to get custody without paying close to 50 grand. And that would take close to two years and it may not happen




Excuse my french.......................But that SUCKS.


KWidgeon - 5/8/2008 at 04:29 PM

My husband thinks I'm a little bit crazy, but I don't feel bad about it since he knew that when he married me. He doesn't get on the computer at all. He really likes music, but doesn't have the passion for it that I do, so he doesn't really understand. He's pretty good about my obsession with the ABB. He's a bit afraid that I'll meet some kook or stalker or nut on the internet that will want to hurt me in some way. Can't really blame him for being protective.


Guyute - 5/8/2008 at 04:30 PM

quote:
Hey there sweet family,

My husband ... oh, wait, you already know

Take care and know that you are loved,

Lana


If only you two had something in common...


Buppalo1 - 5/8/2008 at 04:34 PM

Not having a SO, maybe I shouldn't comment but....

My little town has been blessed by frequent visits from folks here over the years. And it has been the topic of much talk. People don't necessarily "get it," but they know something is going on. "Astonishment" might be the best word. They love what goes on when GB folks are here, marvel at the fun they have, try to understand the attraction to the place they live and work every day. A couple of folks, Johnny Wiemann and Jimmy Walker, have been out of town to some of the family get-togethers, have a better grasp.
My concert buddy Mary Jane came closest to "getting it." Bottom line, lots of folks in my little town have been blessed by this family, friendships made through meeting at music events connected to the site here. A very, very positive thing.


TopDroog - 5/8/2008 at 04:35 PM

quote:
Hey there sweet family,

My husband ... oh, wait, you already know

Take care and know that you are loved,

Lana


Hey! What are you doing OFF the internet? Get back on HTW right now!


Lana - 5/8/2008 at 04:38 PM

omg, you installed a web cam in our house!


dadof2 - 5/8/2008 at 04:45 PM

Lana-- given my stupidity in tech things,i thought you & Rowland lived in here


TopDroog - 5/8/2008 at 05:26 PM

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Lana-- given my stupidity in tech things,i thought you & Rowland lived in here


They do. They're virtual people. When you bump into them IRL, they're wearing their simulacrum suits. In reality, Lana and Rowland are programs. Watch The Matrix Reloaded again . . . it will explain everything.


Benjamin - 5/8/2008 at 05:30 PM

Back when we only had dial-up internet and one phone line at home, my wife signed up so she could reach me via PMs!

Super secret user name, and she has zero posts.
Jen sort of gets it, likes the same music, but she's got way too many other things going on to have the time to hang out on the internet.
She's also met a ton of people from here...so those folks know she's the nicer of the two of us!


dancingrhonda - 5/8/2008 at 05:57 PM



I was dating someone awhile ago who very very jealous of my time on HTW. He never made it to SO status. But while we were dating, he created a fake identity, then started posting. He started with a “hey I’m new here” everyone (including me) welcome him – well the fake him. Then I started getting really weird PMs from him. He completely misrepresented himself to lure me into responding inappropriately. It didn’t take long for me to figure it out and he was shocked when I did. I dumped him immediately.


KWidgeon - 5/8/2008 at 06:00 PM

quote:


I was dating someone awhile ago who very very jealous of my time on HTW. He never made it to SO status. But while we were dating, he created a fake identity, then started posting. He started with a “hey I’m new here” everyone (including me) welcome him – well the fake him. Then I started getting really weird PMs from him. He completely misrepresented himself to lure me into responding inappropriately. It didn’t take long for me to figure it out and he was shocked when I did. I dumped him immediately.



Good for you! It sounds like something my husband might try, if he actually new how to use a computer. He wouldn't be mean or anything, but would flirt outrageously via PM if he knew how. He's crazy like that!


BigDaveOnBass - 5/8/2008 at 06:03 PM

quote:
I was dating someone awhile ago who very very jealous of my time on HTW. He never made it to SO status. But while we were dating, he created a fake identity, then started posting. He started with a “hey I’m new here” everyone (including me) welcome him – well the fake him. Then I started getting really weird PMs from him. He completely misrepresented himself to lure me into responding inappropriately. It didn’t take long for me to figure it out and he was shocked when I did. I dumped him immediately.
At least Bluedad is forward enough to make inappropriate advances in the public forum. (Well, in HIS mind, they're appropriate.)


sixty8 - 5/8/2008 at 06:30 PM

I don't have an SO and I never will unless I find a woman who would dig my music. I'm set in my ways and the first time I heard the words "turn that cr@p off" she would be out on the curb with her wardrobe and a bunch of shoe boxes!!!

On a more serious note I'm sorry to hear about your ex wife blowing money on a dating site while ignoring her kids Eric. After a few months of doing that kind of desperate searching for some strange dude, she's gonna be hit square in the head with a lightning bolt of realization that she threw away the best husband and father. Someone better than anyone else she can find on some stupid website. When she finally realizes what she has lost forever she will be devastated. It is a lesson I learned myself 25 years ago when I didn't treat the only woman I was ever in love with the right way and broke up with her because I thought I was the sh!t at the time and could get any woman I wanted. It took about three months to realize I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I called and pleaded and begged, but it was too late. I was devastated for years and have yet to find that kind of connection. She is married (to the same guy who she started dating after our breakup) with three beautiful kids and is one of the sweetest and most well rounded people I know.

Karma works that way and I believe you're ex will have major regrets and good things will happen for you Eric. Just stay true to yourself and everything will work out for you and you're kids.

[Edited on 5/8/2008 by sixty8]


No1ToRunWith - 5/8/2008 at 06:46 PM

Thanks Pete.

Very sad when the kids do not want to go home to her. They cry their hearts out to stay with me. She barely feeds them and if anything it is fast food, no well rounded meals. She barely plays or interacts with them. We were sitting almost ready to eat and my son, Connor, says "Da Da I love it here cause you interact with me" Last night I had them over and my daughter Olivia says can you sing me twinkle twinkle and itsy spider. I like when you do that, mommy doesn't do it anymore.

Her family has admitted she is suffering from depression but she says she is not. Right now her family is sitting by the wayside letting her fall flat on her face. Maybe she will wake up.


BigDaveOnBass - 5/8/2008 at 06:49 PM

Eric, I know $50K sounds like a lot of money, and it is, no doubt. Maybe something will happen and the courts will be forced to turn custody over to you without you having to take her to court. My heart aches for your kids. They are angels.


lolasdeb - 5/8/2008 at 06:51 PM

Not currently in a relationship but my long-time SO who I recently split with is a big music fan and loves the Bros and all of the splinter groups. Don't know what his reaction to my time on the site is as the point is now moot. Musically we were on same page but it was a relationship that ended up totally revolving around one person (not me ) and I needed to strike out and have some life for myself.

Rhonda - that person sounds just plain creepy!!!

Eric - you know how I feel.


Pam - 5/8/2008 at 07:43 PM

I am too smart to have such things as SO's!



stu_pidasso - 5/8/2008 at 08:15 PM

quote:
She's somebody elses SO now...
She sat between me and her hubby at the last ABB show in KC.
Also they are picking me up from the airport Sat morning in KC to go to my son's college graduation ceremony.
After that I wonder....are we still a disfunctional family or is it all completed.


Hey, that's awesome that you can get along! I bet your kids appreciate you both being there. My son's mom and I do stuff together and I know my son loves it.

Here's to being functionally dysfunctional...


Jacquie - 5/8/2008 at 08:27 PM

I'll have to bite my tongue on this subject until after my divorce is final.....


ruthelane - 5/8/2008 at 10:05 PM

We have been married 38 years and I guess we learned to put up with each other.
We dated in college I first heard of the ABB from him. He had a couple of their albums.
He still likes the music but not like I do. He mostly listens to jazz these days and I'm fine
with that. However, he does not understand listening to the same band all day. And he really doesn't understand seeing an artist in a live show several times a year. Last October, we caught two of Gregg's shows in the same weekand and he drew the line at that. What he really enjoyed
though was the JFD. We met a lot of folks from here and the music was excellent. He likes to play golf and fish and leaves me alone to do what I want. He thinks I spend too much time on the Internet.

[Edited on 5/8/2008 by ruthelane]


bluedad - 5/8/2008 at 10:13 PM

My wife don't have a clue about HTW or most things....


Lana - 5/8/2008 at 10:24 PM

Hey there sweet family,

It seems funny now (kind of, I guess) that a lot of people once thought the ABB's management had invented me ... that they'd come up with a marketing scheme to have a sister to the world, and had a bunch of people creating/driving the didn't-really-exist "persona" behind the screen. The management of other bands in particular always seemed surprised to meet me in person back in the day. I remember one of the GDead folks telling Bert what a brilliant idea and "hot little commodity" "Lana" was. You can't make this stuff, or me, up!

Take care and know that you are loved,

Lana


hughduty - 5/8/2008 at 10:25 PM

My wife's more into Country & Pop music...has no problem w/what i do musically..playing or listening...we support each other in whatever we're doing individually.


HooHead123 - 5/8/2008 at 10:40 PM

My wife is a big fan of classic rock....she hates computers and only uses it to check her email or for research. She says I spend way too much time on it...not just here but on it in general....I do a lot of promo for my band and always have to work on something...she pushes me to be the best I can be on guitar....I'm really blessed...B


michaelsio - 5/8/2008 at 11:29 PM

Rose doesn't mind especially when I say we are going away for the weekend to see DTB and Susan T or we're going to Red Rocks. That makes it OK.
While ABB isn't her favorite music, she enjoys being me when I enjoy myself at the shows. My daughters also like coming to shows (as long as I buy the tickets). I guess I'm fairly lucky in that respect.

[Edited on 5/8/2008 by michaelsio]


Pam - 5/9/2008 at 12:13 AM

quote:
Hey there sweet family,

It seems funny now (kind of, I guess) that a lot of people once thought the ABB's management had invented me ... that they'd come up with a marketing scheme to have a sister to the world, and had a bunch of people creating/driving the didn't-really-exist "persona" behind the screen. The management of other bands in particular always seemed surprised to meet me in person back in the day. I remember one of the GDead folks telling Bert what a brilliant idea and "hot little commodity" "Lana" was. You can't make this stuff, or me, up!

Take care and know that you are loved,

Lana
That is because you were Haht Lana!


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