SouthernBoy - 11/3/2006 at 06:33 PM
Hey there sweet family.
Havent posted here in several years, but Im at a huge crossroads in life and just wanted to get back to my roots and find myself - and that place has always been music. Especially ABB music.
My wife of 21 years (we've been together 24 all-total) and I may be parting soon, and its a wierd spot to be in. Thinking of being on your own after almost a quarter century. Been with this girl since I was 19, and dont really know of any other way of life other than her in it. Ya know? Our son (20) is grown and moved out at college, so the that chapter of life is behind us now.
I put on my Live at Great Woods VHS the other day, and that was some really good therapy; listening to Gregg, Dickey and Co. do their stuff. Guess it wont be long before Im likewise "Going Down the Road Feelin' Bad".
Anyways, no particular reason for this post other than thinking out loud, with folks I know see life different because we are all Peach Heads at heart.
You good people hug the one you have in your life, you never know when it will be the last time you can.
BigDaveOnBass - 11/13/2006 at 01:24 PM
Good luck Southern Boy. Is there a chance for reconciliation? However the chips fall, wishing you the best. Hang in there.
Haisija - 11/13/2006 at 05:13 PM
No matter what it feels like bro, you'll make it !
heineken515 - 11/13/2006 at 06:45 PM
Whewww, 21 - 24 years wow, I do feel for you and her I guess. I gather this was her idea and not yours.
I'll stay away from the cliches, but do hang in there. Alot of guys joke about being back out there in "the market" etc., but when it comes right down to it I think I'd rather not.
I really do feel for you, take it easy and slow, don't do anything too rash.
BrotherofBeauty - 11/20/2006 at 12:38 AM
So sorry you go through this. But apparently that is what you have to do.
Some unasked advice from a fellow stumbler: share your feelings with true friends, take good care of your body, try to feel grateful for all the good years, trust life.
You're a good man; life will offer new insights and experiences for sure. It may take a while though, and during that tough time you need to stay positive.
Today's healing prayer is for you brother.
mash535 - 11/24/2006 at 02:04 AM
Hey, been going through the same thing myself, having been married 25 years! The best thing for me has been getting out, going to lots of concerts, and focusing on taking care of myself. Thank goodness for the ABB, DTB, Mule, etc! Good luck, you're going to be living a lot of new adventures and a great time of your life!
SouthernBoy - 11/28/2006 at 02:18 PM
Gosh, thanks all you kind souls for the encouraging & supportive words. I knew Id be amongst real friends here.
Yes, this is her decision and right now its 'day-to-day'. So Im just trying to keep my head screwed on straight, my heart sincere and just see where the road takes me. I guess we all just assume the person next to us will always be there. Such is not the case.
But I will tell you this; I have learned, more than ever, to not overlook even the smallest blessing. So you good people please consider the words of a lost and disallusioned southernboy, dont take anything for granted and appreciate each moment you are given. Especially the people around you that you love.
Merry Christmas and God bless.
dadof2boys - 11/28/2006 at 03:13 PM
i hope you can find peace as you go through these difficult times.........prayers are sent out to you for healing........peace
LinnieXX - 11/28/2006 at 05:13 PM
well, having just recently gone through this myself, i will say that YES, it does get better. i ended a 9 year marriage (15 years total) last year and havent looked back. well, maybe i've looked back, but i'm sure i'll turn to salt if i keep it up.....
my only words of wisdom are as follows: neither of you are the same people you where when you met. The only thing that we can be certain of in this life is CHANGE, you got no choice but to go along with it, esp. if that is how she wants it.
keep your chin up guy, it will get better.
cheech12131 - 11/29/2006 at 01:41 AM
having been through a wife or two(1 I was married to for 13 years)I can give you the following advice.Buy yourself a Harley.Long rides always clear the head.And when it rains,listen to some good music,cuz music always heals the soul.
dimmelsr - 12/6/2006 at 07:54 PM
I just went a round of this my self just over a year ago, 24 years married, 27 together, I'm sorry, but You know in my case, I'm actualy much happyer, didnt relize how bad things were, and just kept trying to work everyting out all the time, and i didnt even know i was killing my self in the prosess, so for me it was a blessing, but no mater what, just hang in there and remember, God and time can heal all. if You need to talk any, just send me a email.. okay, I'm from ohio but, email is always free ... well almost
SouthernBoy - 10/15/2008 at 06:56 PM
Hey there sweet family!
Its me again, I just logged on for the first time in a long time to peek in and say 'HI' and let you know how things have been going. (Can you believe its been about 2 years)
A lot has transpired since I posted that first message a few years ago, but the good Lord has helped me thru and Im glad to report life is looking up for this ole southern boy.
After two years of really tough transition, I now have an incredible woman in my life who I can only describe as an Angel on earth. Like myself, she likewise found herself single again and heartbroken. Hers was a 10 year relationship - her 'Ex' walked in one day and said he wanted out - she was crushed. Fate brought us together and its crazy how things work out sometimes. Can you believe it; she grew up not a mile from where I grew up, we attended the same high school, all of that, but never knew one another because we are 12 years apart in age. (she is 33 and I am 45) Because when I was 18, graduated HS and moved away, her family had just moved to that area and she was just going into the 1st grade. LOL How is that for a coinky-dink? This person has a heart bigger than Ive ever known and she and I are a perfect match for each other.
I was just listening to my 'Searching For Simplicity' album and something motivated me to drop by and let you good folks know how things turned out. Thanks again for your words and kind thoughts, this southern boy is forever grateful !
[Edited on 10/15/2008 by SouthernBoy]
Haisija - 10/15/2008 at 07:06 PM
See you made it ! Great to hear from you again on the good side of life.
dimmelsr - 11/26/2008 at 07:21 PM
CONGRATS!!! told you that you would make it hang in there