Thread: Dale and Derek

bird72 - 9/6/2006 at 09:41 PM

Just a prayer and remembrance for my two sons in Heaven, Dale and Derek. I love them and miss them both greatly. God be always close to you two. It is almost the two year day from Dereks passing and Dale has been twelve years. They would be 19 and 27 now. Derek used to laugh at my Allman obsession. If only we could rewind and be better fathers and friends, but I hope I was good enough.

Love, Dad


susea - 9/6/2006 at 11:53 PM

I'm very sorry to hear this. And on an uplifting note, it was wonderful meeting you over the Red Rocks weekend. I hope you find peace of mind with the memories that you have. Take good care.


RedRider - 9/7/2006 at 04:55 PM

So what did Derek like to listen to?

Bird I bet you were a pretty good Dad. Don't think you would have made it through your Hep C ordeal without their help...


bird72 - 9/11/2006 at 08:10 PM

Today was the day of Dereks accident. I write this for my benefit, really. I am deep in sadness today. I never want to watch a loved one die in a trauma center again. While organ donation is noble, after two days, I couldn't bear to watch anymore as they sustained his life to harvest the organs. I told them to pull the plug. Maybe I shouldn't have, but it was to much to watch, the prolonging of the natural.

Derek was brilliant, a computer and electronic genius, and the world lost somebody special. He was a fiery redhead and a skater who did stunts and stuff....... damn it I miss him, I can't write more, the tears just come. Love you son.


Oh, and RR, he liked, umm "industrial" or techno, or something.....


Jacquie - 9/11/2006 at 08:22 PM

Rest in peace sweet boys.


BigDaveOnBass - 9/11/2006 at 08:38 PM

Bird, I can't imagine the loss of one child, let alone two. You surely are a survivor, between losing the boys and going through Hep C treatments. God bless you, man.

Love and respects, BDOB


RedRider - 9/11/2006 at 11:06 PM

Peace to you today Bird . I hope in the future you can share some photos with us.


greggswoman - 9/12/2006 at 03:01 AM

Love to you Bird!!


bird72 - 3/10/2007 at 03:10 PM

Happy Birthday Derek, I love you son. I wish you were here.
Dad


RedRider - 3/12/2007 at 03:12 AM

Hope you recalled many sweet times yesterday and had you a smile or two...


lolasdeb - 3/12/2007 at 09:12 PM

Thinking of you Bird, and your Derek, and sending out prayers for your comfort and peace.


bird72 - 6/17/2007 at 01:41 PM

Not sure why I'm writing here today or what to say.... Derek, I still have the "Dad" coffee cup.... and old fathers day cards..... Dale, I still have your cards too..... I love the little scribbley learning to write ones....... they always said "Love" from each of you..... to be honest, I can't really look at that stuff, I have, but I can't........ my hope is to be able to someday..... miss you two, Love Dad, a reverse fathers day card, I guess......... smile to heaven, tear to earth....


bird72 - 9/11/2008 at 07:25 PM

Four years ago on this day I was on the most horrific 500 mile drive in my life, to get to the hospital before Derek died. I did, and I thank God, saying goodbye is not something all get to do. I walked in the sun today, and I felt Derek up there, and I felt Dale was with him..... Lord I miss them two. I have no clue why I am here and them not. But I am.


BigDaveOnBass - 9/12/2008 at 03:19 PM

Peace and comfort, Tony.


Dannyspell - 9/12/2008 at 03:22 PM

Peace for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Stephen - 9/13/2008 at 03:30 PM

You're a great guy Tony -- no doubt Dale & Derek knew you were a great dad too -- all the best brother


Haisija - 9/13/2008 at 03:40 PM

Going through what you went through is un-imaginable in my mind. Peace to you.


rainy - 9/14/2008 at 10:04 PM

T O N Y This is extremely hard to read , let alone live through what I have just read.. I have read your posts about 1 1/2 years ago, about all the tragedy's you have endured... it was just to much to comprehend.. Why do some people have unbelievable amounts of sadness and pain in their lives .

You have my utmost amount of respect, sympathy, admiration.... Standing tall and getting through life everyday... takes a tremendous amount of strength , courage, faith... God Bless you. May Dale and Derek live on everyday in your heart and one day you will all walk together again with arms embraced around one another full of love and happiness , unlike any happiness here on earth.

Peace and Love to you...


Capn - 9/16/2008 at 04:14 PM

I made a similar 500 mile drive 4 years ago, but was too late...

My goodbye was in the morgue.

Parents should never have to bury their offspring
it is a pain I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy.

Nothing I can say to help you Bird,
but know you are loved by many here
Only wish I could do more.


Capn - 9/16/2008 at 04:19 PM

quote:
the tears just come. Love you son.


tears are good, when they finally cease
try to replace them with a fond memory
and see if a smile won't land upon your face
works for me sometimes...

Andy Loved Nirvana
also teased me about my ABB obsession
would have been 30 this december

all in all is all we all are


ruthelane - 11/16/2008 at 07:43 PM

Bird, I just read this thread for the first time. Losing a child has to be
the most painful and saddest of all losses. But to loss two sons,
both young, is unimaginable to me. You are strong. As someone else said,
tears are good. I will keep you in my thoughts. I am sure you were a good father.

God love you, Bird.


StratDal - 11/24/2008 at 12:56 AM

Wow. This thread really gave me the chills and brought a tear to my eyes. I'm very sorry for the passing of your sons bird72. What terrible experiences you had to go through. My sincere condolences and may you and your family and friends be at peace.


bird72 - 12/25/2008 at 05:18 PM

Dale and Derek thinking of you guys today. I know you feel my love up there. We had some great Christmas days, two little boys playing toys with dad. When I see little boys with that same joy in their eyes, it brings back warm memories. My goal for this year is to at least replace some of the tears with smiles of memories. To have had the unconditional love of two fine sons is an honor like no other. Merry Christmas you two rabble rousers.....


to people who have said kind things here, thank you. I just don't know what to say, I guess, but thanks. Capn, I especially don't know what to say to others like you, there is nothing to say, the road is just there..... hug bro.


fanfrom-71 - 12/25/2008 at 05:26 PM

I'll be thinking of both of you today Tony and Terry.I'm going to spend some time with a father who has also lost 2 children. A daughter a few years ago,and a son just 2 weeks ago. It has been really tough on him. I hope both of you have some great memories to enjoy today.
~Bruce


mbtogo4 - 12/25/2008 at 05:54 PM

quote:
Just a prayer and remembrance for my two sons in Heaven, Dale and Derek. I love them and miss them both greatly. God be always close to you two. It is almost the two year day from Dereks passing and Dale has been twelve years. They would be 19 and 27 now. Derek used to laugh at my Allman obsession. If only we could rewind and be better fathers and friends, but I hope I was good enough.

Love, Dad


May god's love look over you and your boys.
Four years ago on Christmas Morning a very dear friend I work with got a call at work that his 2 sons who were home on leave from the service were both killed in a car that they were driving lost controll ,another 20 year old also was killed.
I was there when he got the dreadful call to come and identify his kids. I never want to experience anything like that again . One cannot even imagine for one minute the pain you are in I was just a friend and that night the whiskey flowed.
Nothing anyone can say could ever fill the void left of a lost loved one.......
If we believe in God we know there will be a time together again.
God bless you....


bird72 - 3/12/2009 at 12:20 AM

Yesterday was Derek's birthday, he would have been 22, but left this world at 17 and a half..... Dale would have been 30 on January 30th..... left at 15 though.... I think it is natural to try and picture them how they would look at this age now..... would they be dads? would they have kids? they would be coming over to see the old man.... showing off a new truck.... then it hits me..... time froze and they are forever 15 and 17...... today I search for meaning, and find none, I look for resolution and it is an open void..... I try to put it in context of a God and then find myself hating Him, if I put spiritual logic to it..... a wheel fell off the wagon and there's no putting it back.... I hope Heaven is a great place, and I hope it is for the kids more than anyone..... us old ones don't need no heaven, but the young ones deserve it....

Miss ya buddies!


KWidgeon - 3/12/2009 at 12:33 AM

Sending you peace and comfort.


bird72 - 7/11/2009 at 10:46 PM

Thinking of Dale and this day in 1994 when he went hiking with friends on a river in Oregon, age 15. RIP Dale, thinking of you, son and love you much. God Bless. All I pray is that there is nothing but comfort and joy for you now.


DanB - 7/12/2009 at 03:58 PM

Stay strong Tony!!!


bird72 - 9/13/2009 at 03:27 PM

Derek, Five years ago son, this was a sad day. You hung on so bravely trying to stay with us but couldn't. Like Dale, it has taken me five years or so to just come to an inner acceptance that it truly happened and the world is this way now. I do know you're OK..... The sadness of you guys being gone tints all grey except when I can forget for small periods.... All I can do now is try to be a better person for the honor of y'all......

RIP


Libby - 9/20/2009 at 01:50 PM

...thoughts and prayers, Tony.


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